Am i just entirely too sensitive?

Question

i've always been a sensitive person, but lately i'm worried that i may be too sensitive. the littlest things get to me, and i constantly fear angering people or being judged.

like the other day i was in the lunch line, and i'd went off daydreaming, and didn't realize the line had moved, until thed lady behind me told me to move up. i felt really horrible and embarassed and couldn't stop thinking about it for a long time.

and today my roommate was being mean to me for no obvious reason like he always does, and telling me about when he went to war, and i asked him to leave me alone. not in a forceful way or anything like that. at the time, i felt good for actually standing up for myself, but later i felt really bad about it and apologized to him. and he just ignored me, which made me feel worse.

i'm really hesitant of doing the tiniest things, like speaking my opinion on anything when i'm talking to other people, or even changing the television channel in the commonroom when other people are in the room. i'm always scared that i'm being a bother.

anytime anyone says anything negative to me, i really take it to heart. even when people say mean things to me online, i get upset. when i hear people say unnecessary mean things to people i dont even know it makes me sad.

when i'm at the mall or any place out in public, especially if its indoors, i always feel like people are staring at me, and thinking bad things about me and telling their friends how ugly i am. whenever i'm by myself, i realize how silly and unreasonable my fears are, but once i'm out in the world again, it all just starts over.

this is hurting any chance i could ever have at having a normal life. i'm 19 and i've never really had any friends, and i'm always afraid of starting up conversations with people i dont know, because i'm afraid that theyll see me as annoying or too insecure. (even though i'd admit to being very insecure)

do you think i am entirely too sensitive? could there be something wrong with me, or is this just a part of my personality?

thank you.

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Answer 1

I have the exact same problem you do. Exactly the same. I have overcome it in many ways, and it is down to an all time minimum for me, but like you I take all things to heart, and take them personally, even if the person is just trying to help. I think about the smallest little things, and let them bother me, etc etc etc. To share a quick story. The last real event like that for me was new years 08. I was at the store buying food, and when I got to my wallet to pay the lady I was 20 dollars short, and had to take half of the stuff back. I thought about it for 3 month. My best advice would be to throw yourself at things you might not like doing (socializing) Fear of speaking your mind, and being judged by people is normal though, a lot of people who aren't sensitive feel that way. Believe me, people will respect you more if you stand up for youself, and show confidence. Acting that positive will never backfire, unless the person is a jerk off. There is nothing wrong with you at al, some people are more sensitive that others. Whenever you have a moment like you had in the lunch line. Say to yourself "it doesn't matter, its no big deal, its over with." Say it to yourself over and over and over and over and over again. Thats what I do, and to my surprise, it has started to work. If you get the feeling that people are looking at you funny while you are socializing with them, think nothing of it, most of the time that feeling just comes from minor paranoia of the situation at hand. Everone has paranoia about something. "I always feel like people are staring at me, and telling their friends how ugly I am" I have gotten that EXACT same feeling everday, I get it constantly, and I have reached the point where I say to myself, "I don't f*cking care" When you don't care about it, its hard to ruffle your feathers. So no there is nothing wrong with you, you are just a little more sensitive and self conscious than others than others thats all. Whenever you feel like you are being stared at, or are embarassed, just say to youself "I don't f*cking care" and think about other things that matter.  

Answer 2

its just part of your personality, being sensitive isn't a bad thing but if you don't like being too senisitive stand up for yourself and make sure you don't say sorry it will help in the long run