Am i just over-reacting?

Question

here's the deal - i just came here to US a year ago and FINALLY got my immigration papers done, which means i'll FINALLY be able to work- i waited for so long!

i was just waiting to be able to drive (test is 2 weeks from now) so I could finally find a job, then we learned that I'm pregnant.

Since I am not working yet, my Mother-in-law asked me to take care of my Father-In-law (really old), thinking it would be not permanent, I said agreed. even if it means that i'll only be able to see my husband during weekends :(

I am staying here for a week now and yesterday she mentioned that she will just be getting my replacement when my stomach got big, which is on December.

Now, my question is, AM I JUST OVER-REACTING (hormones working since im preggo) OR DO I REALLY HAVE THE REASON TO FEEL BAD ABOUT MY SITUATION!

I told my husband about it and he said i'm just going to be here "for awhile" but my MIL is saying i'll be staying here for long.....

She is paying me to do it, and we could really use the money but i cant stand being away from my husband. and besides, i'll be looking for a REAL job soon.

WHAT SHOULD I DO? i dont want to hurt anyone's feelings but i want a happy pregnancy since this is my first... but i really feel so depressed being here and not seeing my husband...

and i dont feel like MIL is considering that i am pregnant. The old man has a fever bec. of some "infection" but she didnt tell me what kind. he might have pneumonia or something since he's taking meds indicated for those (im in the medical field). Being preggy, i know my immune system is not working well and i dont want anything bad to happen to my baby!

wahh.... i wanna go home to my mother! lol!

Answer 1

It's all up to you really.  If your tired of this situation tell the MIL that you really need time with your husband, you don't mind caring for the old man sometimes but you had your own plans on what you would work at doing.  Slowly begin to find reasons why your not going to be available, maybe start looking for that job.  Sounds like they all want to keep you at home with them for some reason.  Don't do it  

Answer 2

go home your MIL can hirer an in home nurse.

Answer 3

Your YOU  why are you letting others dictate your life?  I don't care if their in-laws or not!

Go be with your husband. You married him, not his parents.

in 2 weeks get your license  and go to work.  You an get a job as a nurse in a clinic. You don't have to lift people there.

Answer 4

I am confused as to weather or not you want a replacement? If you are looking forward to being replaced and you want it to be sooner then later you should just tell her. I promise she will understand. If you want to keep working for you mother in law then you should just tell her also. It is nothing to freak out about, if you just convey you feelings in a respectable manner no one will get hurt.  

Answer 5

fake sickness and get yourself outta there.

i was pregnant just weeks ago and it gets harder on your body the farther along you are. and you couldn't get me within 15 feet of a sick person.

Answer 6

Well, since you are pregnant, you have the perfect "out."   Just say you don't feel well enough to be on your feet caring for your FIL.    And it's true  . . . . .  how bad would you feel if something happened to the baby?

As for getting a REAL job while you're preg, that probably won't happen as most employers won't hire a pregnant woman.    They can't actually ask you about it in an interview, but when you start to show, it's hard to hide.  

You husband should support you if you don't want to continue in your present situation.   You are his family now, and should be the most important thing in his life.   If you are not------you need to find out why.

Answer 7

Your married and need money... stick it out. Your MIL knows you need to money and is trying to help you. Go to a drug store and buy a mask, that way you won't be breathing the same air.    

Answer 8

OK....here is hw u fix it:) I too am married and no that we r obligated to in laws as our family. Go to ur doct and tell him hw overwhelmed u r, stress etc... and tell him the old man is very ill so u worry bout ur baby. Really work it up until ur doct says u need to go home. Then it is not ur fault cuz its docts orders to go home to the hubby:) it keeps u the good guy!!! and no one can b mad. If u hv a coll doc as i did he would tell me n e thing 2 get me out of stuff while i was preg. he even wrote a note to my boss that i hv to wear sneakers for medical reasons, swelling of feet. good luck!!!!

Answer 9

I think your husband should come to his mothers and stay over night

with you in this condition.No it's not just your hormones.

Your right to want your husband by your side..

even 2-3 days a week would help you feel better

sounds like you have a uncaring husband and yes you should be upset

with him.Now if your in the medical field you would know by the tablets

your father in-law takes as to what is illness is old age isn't going to hurt your unborn child. Some -Older people take many tablets.

You ought to know this..But you also need the money and may want to direct your anger on your husband for not wanting to see you during the week as it's him you miss. Talk to him about this thats part of being married.