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Am i lookin for love in all the wrong places?

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I'm 20 and looking for a serious relationship. I've grown up alot in my past years and i'm looking to find honest and true love with someone. I'm not out to have s*x with a girl because i'm still a virgin and i'm just lookin for someone who will love me for me and my personality and the kind of person i am. I've had alot of bad luck in the past years i've dated about 4 or 5 girls but none of them lasted that long maybe like 2 months at the most on a few.

I'm just wonderin will i ever find that right one someday? that one that i "Click" with so perfectly and have so much in common with on everything? I'm not that bad of a guy i'm real nice, i dont be needy too much i dont pressure too much, i just act normal like myself but im wanting to be with someone so badly what should i do?

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Your first statement is the problem: you aren't allowing a relationship to develop casually from a friendship. You're likely going in with the mindset that either you're going to find "the one" and settle down or it's on to the next. You may try to act like you're not needy, but then you say you "don't pressure too much" (for only having the longest relationship last 2 months, that's pretty quick). Maybe you are only looking at a serious relationship TO finally have s*x? What's the first thing you think of? Is it watching tv or going to the grocery store together or is it having s*x?

Heck, your whole question is about your want/need to settle down, so you're kind of shooting yourself in the foot, hoping that you'll meet someone who also has that need. The other problem is, most people (like yourself) worry a lot about doing everything "right" in the first few months (seeming like you have everything in common, like you want), which often fades away as couples become more "comfortable" and an entirely incompatible version of who you met could appear. You could be opening too much thinking you're just being open and real when she doesn't want to hear it (or, giving clear direction as to how to pull your strings as long as she feels like it). Quit thinking about it, find something else to occupy your time, explore new hobbies, and do things you like to do, for yourself, THEN you'll probably be 10X more likely to meet someone you're looking for.
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just wait. ur love will come to u.
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Just keep dating.

Love happens on its own.

Unfortunately, you may encounter a ton of bad relationships before you find the girl that's really worth it.

Don't rush love. However, when you start feeling those feelings for someone, don't let her go. :)

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Most people find love at some point, just be patient and wait.
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if you keep worrying about it, it probably won't get you anywhere soon. so just relax and wait and things will just afll into the place. good luck princess :) and finally tap that already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!... just kidding wait til your married
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YOU HAVE COMMITED MANY MISTAKES REGARDING DEVELOPING s*x IN YOUR MIND. APNI MAA SE KAHO JIS LARKI SE TUM MERI SHAD KARDOGI MAIN KAR LOONGA. s*x AFTER MARRIAGE IS THE BEST. WOULD YOU LIKE TO MARRY A GIRL WHO HAS GONE FIFTY TIMES WITH DIFFERENT PEOPLE.

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yes of course you will find the right girl. it just takes time and especially in this world these days it makes it harder. girls go for the "bad" guys. i dont personally but some do. but the good, nice, sweet and normal girls are looking for guys like you. it just takes time and you will find her eventually dont worry. just be yourself and it will all work out. good luck!

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Attend a church in your area of your choice and get involved with the youth group there that is where you will find the most girls that are compatible with you ...try the bowling alley ...this might be shocking but did you know several good young girls go to bingo halls it isn't for the old folks anymore trust me there is more young girls than old ladies in them...if there is a non drinking dance hall there that might be a good place ...or dancing lessons with couples that dance ...think of places that you will met new faces in and remember the more people you met the more likely you are to find the woman you want in your life! and the places you look will define the women you will met in them so if you want a good girl then you will need to think of where the good girls are located and then get involved in that area.
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love is ***** ***** is love do yo thang ni g g a
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I totally hear you out on this one! It's tough, (seriously!) to think about stuff like that. I believe, honestly though, that you will "click" with someone eventually. I'm not sure if this will help you but my new thing is to go out with guys I wouldn't normally go out with. Get to know a wider variety, not just stick to one "type" and see how that goes. I think it could be helpful to you to get to know a more broad range of girls because maybe you could "click" with a girl in the past you would have never given a second glance to!!
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uhm, just wait for her, for the right and perfect woman for you. i know she's somewhere out there waiting for you too. Don't lose hope, i you're gonna find her in time, God has a plan. Anyway, you're just 20, you're not too old. So, for the meantime, just hold on, and enjoy this moment. Good luck!
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Your first problem is your looking for love and it's probably on your mind way too much. Almost everyone has struggled with this but you have to just let it happen. Try to think about other things and before you know it that person will be their. I have no doubt you will find someone it just requires time and patience
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Easy bro, meet a girl who likes the same things you like, but uhh dont make it sound like your lying haha i got alot of c**p for that =D

so yea, go out, meet some girls, ask about them and when you say stay in touch you must mean it.

in time you'll fall for them as they will to you.

it happend to me last week xD and its HAWT and FUN =D

but then again your 20 so its best to have fun before getting whipped =p

eh try what i said before that haha
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i think you should try your best to hold on until it comes to you half way because the more you pressure yourself on having a relationship the worst you will settle for which can mean you can get urself in a bad position.everything happens 4 a reason so maybe the time is not rite.
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dude youre like 20 .. you should be tappin as much *** as possible at this stage..signed.. player
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you should be patient and let love find you when you least expect it. goodluck!
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Learn how to flirt, that'll do the trick.
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wait for the right one,

she'll come along someday:)
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Where do you live? Lol. I'm looking for a nice guy. Where I live, they must be fresh out of those because I can't find one!
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