Am i overreacting because of my hormones?

Question

I am 10 weeks pregnant and so far it has been an awful pregnancy i have had severe m/s and i been very emotional and cranky.I have been very snappy at my partner although i love him ,sometimes i look at him and feel so much anger which sends him over the edge so we get into very bad screaming fights and i can feel my blood pressure rising as he screams at me.So last night we got into another fight because i felt sick and didn't feel like making love so i decided it would be best if i left and went and stayed with a friend and all night i cried because i missed him so much, i decided to go home early in the morning to see him before he left for work but when i got home he wasn't there and the bed hadn't been slept in.I couldn't reach him on his mobile and when he finally got home from work this afternoon he refused to tell me where he was.Then the home phone rang and a message was left by his ex wife saying he left his phone there this morning.He told me that he was feeling upset about our fight and he couldn't speak to his mates about it so he rang his ex to ask her why i have been so emotional and bitchy then she invited him over for a friendly dinner.Well apparently he had to many wines and fell asleep on her lounge then when i went crazy about the fact that he had dinner with his ex wife and stayed over there he told me that i was overreacting and being a ***** again and that if i didn't like it then i have to deal with it.Is it my hormones or do i have the right to feel insecure and angry?

Answer 1

Some personality changes are expected during pregnancy.Try to control yourself.Since you are pregnant you deserve some understanding from those who love you.

Answer 2

well, your husband acting like a complete A$$, screaming at you, then leaving for the night to go to his ex's dosen't help! if i were you, i'd be calling his ex to find out what really happened!!!!!

you definatley have a right to be angry! don't put up with it.  

Answer 3

I don't care how much the two of you fussed for him to stay at his ex's house was a big NO NO. And I am sure you don't believe the whole he had a drink and fell asleep. His motive was to make love that night and since you didn't want to he went where he could get it quick and easy... If I was you I would let him know if he cant be a little more understand during your pregnancy its time to let it be what it is. Cus running to his ex is not going to make things better between the two of you!!!  

Answer 4

it's a bit of both. Some woman get quite irritable when they are pregnant and fight more with their partners or whoever may be annoying them!!

However, I would be so mad, pregnant or not if I was not feeling well and my husband got mad at me for not wanting to make love. You are carrying his child and are nauseas and he got mad for you not wanting to be intimate!! I was so sick at the beginning and did not want to be touched. AT ALL. My husband never complained once. (luckily I felt much better after week 15). As for sleeping at his ex wife's house- I would be extremely mad. I would be very skeptical about what went on after dinner. And would not want my husband bitching about me to his ex-wife.

You may want to re-evaluate this relationship and make sure you and him are on the same page and have the same outlooks on where things are going for both of you and your baby.

Answer 5

hormones or not i would have been pissed at my husband, i use to get pissed alot with my ex for doing stuff like hanging out with a bunch of girls supposedly just playing on the computer, yeah ok whatever, but did you ever notice if we do something like they did they get totally pissed off lol

Answer 6

The fact that he didn't want to tell you where he was, and you found out from his ex's message is very worrying.

you need to tell him that you realise you are hormonal, and it isn't fair that you're being mean to him, but that you can't help it. He needs to be more understanding.

How dare he get upset because you don't want s*x!!

If you know that you are being overly cranky, then you could try a little harder to not take it out on him. Instead of snapping at him, tell him he is making you cranky in talking words, not yelling words. Nip things in the bud before they start.

Tell him that you need 100% honesty, and that he was wrong to not tell you where he was, and furthermore, it's hardly appropriate to stay the night at his ex's house, and worse still to get drunk with his ex.

Answer 7

Its your hormones, me and my partner argued constantly, still are actually at 17 weeks,not as much tho, it is a difficult time for you, your body and your partner and he needs to cut you some slack, going to see his ex is never the right thing to do pregnant or not!!! You need to make that one clear!!! My fella went to see his ex wifes kid and her daughter (not his kid) behind my back while I was preg and i lost it to, now im kinda glad he went as it has confirmed in his head how dead and burried things are..... You need to tell him how you feel and make sure you don't forgive him a 2nd time...

I also found walking away from a situation before you lose it helped me as by the time you calm down it never seems that bad.... That doesn't relate to the ex bit by the way!! Im right behind ya on that one!!

I even lost it at work as my stapler went missing!!! I thought it was a conspiracy and burst into tears lol.... luckily they knew i was preg, turned out it had fell down the back of my desk lol....

It will all be worth it, as it will for me.... Or at least thats what i keep telling myself.... :) all the best hun xx