Am i overreacting?..........?

Question

This guy has kept saying that he wants me,but I dunno..I'm not sure.He knows that I love him.Anyway,one night,we are all out (all friends).He comes up to me and says that he wants to meet me and wants a relationship.He weemed deadly sincere,just then a hen party passed by and this woman had a top with a really low back passed.A silence fell as he stared at her up and down.To break it I said it must be hard for men with all these lovely looking women in the bar, while there were no good looking men in the bar.He never looked at me,just dropped his head and made this fake laugh.I moved away and started to talk to another male friend, who also started acting odd and put his arms protectively around me while he stared over at the guy I love.The night ended and my friend left.Outside, the man I love came up to me and stared into my eyes and swore that he was there for me if I wanted him, did I want him? etc.I said that I did.He looked into my eyes and smiled and said that he would he be in touch,but he never rang.Since then he has sporadically told me that he wants me and that there is something between us etc. but am I overreacting by thinking that the fact he stared at another woman was a sign that he was not into me?

Answer 1

I think he might be using you.

Answer 2

a lot of guys look at other girls!

but hte ones that are really in love dont as they are so interested in the girl they love and want!

this guy seems like a player and a charmer!

he seems to lure girls in by his catchy words and phrases but if he finds some1 better he ll move on!

id say he is sort of into you at the moment but dont trust him he will break your heart if you let him in!

i would say at the moment he is using you because he is bored with his life!not to be mean!

Answer 3

Tough one... Here goes... Men like women... Even men who are seeing a girl always do look around... Eye candy... Usually harmless and if you share the sort of relationship where you guys are really close and trust each other, I'm sure you wouldn't mind. We do it too, don't we? Look at other men and ogle at them, only, I'm guessing our very next thought is of our man.

Now this is different. This guy is practically asking you out. Staring at another woman... not a good sign... He hasn't called, he says one thing does another, not a good sign again. I like the other friend who put his arm around you. That's what you need, a man who is a man, would give that really hot girl a fleeting look but then comes back to reality and actually appreciates the fact that he's with the world's most amazing girl - YOU

I'm not saying you should crush on this other guy. I'm just saying the guy you like, doesn't really feel like a keeper. He's not sure. You don't need that.

Answer 4

He is into you. Him staring at other women only indicates his likelihood of straying

Answer 5

apparently you got jealous.

to me it seems you want him.

Answer 6

This guy is just busy.  Very busy.  From what you say, he still has an eye for women, and is still tempted by them.  This may not be the right man, right now.  I don't know why you love him.  It might be that he is a really great person, and if that is the case, you would have to be prepared for the fact that having him might mean that you won't be the only one for a while, which is OK if that's not gonna kill you inside.

If it is gonna kill you inside, you'd probably need to find someone who is more focused on being with one woman and willing to turn that focus onto you.

Good Luck

Answer 7

No you are only human, everybody gets jealous try to call him back don't wait for him to call you, that only makes you look desperate

Answer 8

The failure of contact is a worse problem

Cool it, until he matures   or move on

Answer 9

It's only natural for men to look at other women, especially if women are flaunting it. As long as it's just looking I wouldn't worry. The important thing is to remember who the guys going home with at the end of the night!

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Answer 10

He doesn't really love you, I suspect. I know of people who have been strung along on promises of love and understanding, only to find out that the guy was only playing with the girl to entertain his friends. I really don't think you overreacted at all. You deserve better than this guy who think he toss you around like a ragdoll. It won't be easy, but try to break it off with him and give yourself time and space to get over him.  

Answer 11

It sounds like the preface to a melodrama.  He doesn't sound very interested to me.  He is a player.

Answer 12

dear, he is not sincere. hope you're not digging for your own pit if you accept his proposal.