Am i so nice that i come off as fake?

Question

i'm a really nice person. it's hard for me to be mean

i'm even nice to people who i really dislike

i know that if i'm straightforward with people they'll probably kick my @$$.and they'll probably be offended

i don't talk about people behind they're back though

and i don't give people complements where is not needed. cause thats just stupid

Answer 1

You sound like a sweet person.  I'd say don't change.  If you're sincere, most people see it over time.  Remember, it's not what you say, it's what you do.

Answer 2

Yeah, it will seem like your a big ***** just not letting it off.

Answer 3

You are fake even if you don't mean to be...you are nice to people you don't even like....isn't that fake?  You don't have to be rude or mean  to people you don't like but you don't have to be nice either...just be diplomatic..meaning do the small talk but don't be overly friendly.  You can't like everyone.  You just give a courteous hello to someone you may not like a lot and move on.

Answer 4

If that is sincerely you, then no. People can usually tell when people are fake. Most cheerleaders I know are

Answer 5

nah, im the same way and a lotof people love me for it. if you feel like your coming off fake, you might be or else where did that idea come from?

Answer 6

It's great that you are really nice to everyone especially people you don't like.  But as said above, don't let people walk all over you or take you for granted.  Be nice but also be assertive when the jerks of this world show up looking for favours, then it's time to tell them to HIT THE ROAD.  And don't worry about offending them.

Answer 7

You are a little fake.

Nice to people you really dislike?  

Maybe you are confusing nice with polite or fear.

You're not being honest with yourself.

You're not talking about others, just yourself.

Self-absorbed?

Answer 8

I see some folks are a little threatened by the fact you are very nice to people, even if they don't deserve it. I think it's great. If you can keep that up it will serve you greatly your whole life. I assume you don't let people walk all over you though. Letting people trample on you or your feelings, just to avoid a confrontation, is not being nice; it's leading down a path of insecurity and that's not going to help you.

More people should be nice to others naturally. That doesn't imply weakness, or idiocy, or being fake. It just means you would rather smile than frown; rather say hi then get lost, etc.

It's not fake until you do talk about people behind their backs, or try to hurt them in some way.

Just my opinion.