Am i spoiling my daughter to much ?

Question

she doesnt do chores .. has all the new electronics ... the sidekick .. ipod...wii..she even has her own creditcard well its like a gift card that my husband an i put 500$ in the month i think that should be enogh for her .. and we still take her shopping every weekend ... but she still wants to get her own phone in her room with a diffrent # from the house # .. should we get it for her ...

i have also noticed that she has alot of more things than her friends .. and she doesnt like to buy cheap cloth or sunglasses or bags.. i think she is to spoiled but how can i get her to be cheaper .. me and my husband are getting tired of her being so spoiled .. sorry there are 2 questions ..

Answer 1

YES!! You are teaching your child to relate love to money. Not good. I have a step daughter who is very spoiled my her mother and grandparents. She is 6 and has a cell phone, iPod, Nintendo DS, etc...She doesn't even play with half of it. You name it she gets it from those people. When she comes to our house she thinks that we don't love her unless we buy her things, which is sad for her dad. Instead of buying her things we go on family outings or play games with her to try and teach her that we do love her and we don't always have the extra money to buy expensive things, but we do enjoy spending TIME with her not MONEY.  It's better to show your love rather than try to buy it. Sorry if I was harsh.

Answer 2

Yes ):

I'm jealous , I'm 13 and I hardly get any of that. You're lying , right?

Try to stop giving her so much if it bothers you how spoiled she is.

Like , if she gets $200 a week , try to cut it to $100 or less and make her do

chores for that money. If she doesn't do the chores , don't give her anything.

MUHAHAHA. But I'm serious about that. (:

If you keep spoiling her so much , you'd make it worse for her.

Answer 3

you are a terrible parent. i would be pretty embarressed if I were you.....hopefully this is just some random joke....

Answer 4

yes ur r spoiling the heck out of her. Newsflash YOU are the parents just stop spoling her. I get like 20 bucks a month geeze

Answer 5

In one of your previous questions, you said you are 14 years old.

How can you have a daughter when you are only 14?

And, in another, you say you are 13, and a virgin. Virgins don't have children.

Answer 6

YES YES AND YES

Answer 7

Your child, has more than i do!!  

Unfortnuately, you've started a HORRIBLE trend that is going to be very difficult to break.  She's a spoiled brat, she feels entitled to things that she... well... isnt entitled too.  Problem is, if you start saying NO out of the blue... you're gonna have a rebellion on your hands.  (But it MIGHT be worth it).  If you dont nip this habit NOW... shes going to go through life expecting everything to be handed to her.  And thats not logical or healthy.   No- i would not get her a private line, she has a cell phone - thats more than enough!

Question 2:  i honestly dont know how to tell you how to fix this habit.  perhaps seeking professional assistance with this one might help.  Finding out WHY you spoil her so much is a good way to stop.  Giving her support from her seperation anxiety of not getting her way all the time.  Tools on how to break the habits you, your husband, and your daughter have established.   my question to you to think about: Why do you feel she needs all of this stuff? Does it bother you that you dont think she's spoiled and the rest of the world is telling you its obvious she is? How do you think your behavior and habits now are going to effect her growing up - do you plan to support her with allowences and name brands for ever? Its obvious (since she doenst do chores) in the real world she has NO chance of fending for herself.

Answer 8

um i think you know the answer to that. You don't HAVE to give her this stuff, you'll be doing her a favor by giving her a weekly allowance for doing chores, and helping out. Then she can use the money for what she wants. She'll be mad at first, but she would be more upset if she got out in the real world and realizes that she can't have everything she wants without hard work.