Am i the bad guy here?

Question

i love my best friend to bits dont get me wrong. the situation is just frustrating me so bad.

my friends family are very religious and really dont approve of me. we go to a private school now but before i went to a state school and she was at another private school. we became best friends as soon as high school started and she was pretty inexperienced. she'd had a more sheltered life than i'd had. i introduced her to makeup and, according to her mom, S****y clothes. im pretty much a good girl. i get straight A's and my friend gets C's and some D's. her mom thinks im distracting her but i wouldnt be getting good grades if i was would i? i do my best to endear myself to them. i went along to her kid brothers birthday party and helped out with the food and handling all the little kids. i even helped her revise.

shes not allowed to date or go out in the evenings or even come shopping with me very much. its getting me down because shes a good friend and she deserves better than to be repressed like this. her parents really pressure her to get good grades and when she doesnt they blame it on me.

im starting to feel like its all my fault and i should let her get on with things. she'd probably be better off without me. i do try to be a good friend but..

Answer 1

Unless there is more going on then we know...NO! You are not the bad guy.

Keep on doing what you're doing as long as you're not consciously trying to corrupt this person. Parents will do what they will, sometimes to the detriment of their child, but remember...once 18 hits, you grow up and make your own life. Don't put so much pressure on yourself to control the elements of someone else's life. It's not fair to you, and can only hurt future relationships.

Answer 2

you are very accomplished you hang out and get good grades. her parents should want her to be more like you. you should explain this to her and dont let her parents redifine whats bad for you. it seems that their idea of bad is off its so bad it has you second guessing yourself

btw if its not too much what age are we talking about here?

Answer 3

why don't you try then telling that in good manners to her parents because they might not be seeing the right thing there like... "If I'm the one with straight A's and your daughter's the one with not so good grades then why do you blame it on me?" . It looks like since they don't like you (and I don't see why...cos from what you tell us you're just being her friend and trying to make them see you're a nice and good intentioned friend), they might just be trying to find an excuse to shove you away just cos they can't tell why they don't like you and so that's what they thogught of to make you feel you're the one who's misguiding her...

Answer 4

You are not the bad guy here & this is not your fault, you just don't want your friend to be stuck in the false-world her parents seem to be keeping her in.

Sadly, though, there is nothing you can do except spend as much time with her as you can. Let her know you'll be there for her no matter what & are always there to talk.

Good luck!.

Answer 5

It sounds very much like you are a great friend its not your fault I think her family just got something up thier butts and listen if you were distracting her she would tell you and honestly it doesn't sound as if your doing anything wrong I had a friend like that but I couldn't stand her parents so I told them off and we ain't friends anymore but seriously keep your head up and charge the mountain stay strong and I hope everything works out for the best good luck.

Answer 6

personally i know how bout of u feel

i have been in both side of the problem

im Hindu and she sounds like shes a Muslim

ok

-so first get to know about ur friend religion a bit more

-second help ur friend out a bit, see why she isnt focused on school

-dont give up on her your probably her bestest friend and would be teared if u left her

-most important IT ISNT UR FAULT WHAT HAPPENDS

hey tanx 4 the answer 2 my question

Answer 7

your not the bad guy i have the same problem its not your fault if she is mean give her some sherbert she will love that ha  ha ha ha ha ha ha ha