Am i to young to be engaged?

Question

ok well my bf(16 years old) and i (17 years old) are engaged are we to young were not gonna get married till we are in our 20s but we love each other with all our hart my parents wont mine but I'm not gonna tell them until im 17 and a half. are we to young???

Answer 1

You know it is, at the moment its two kids wanting to be together so they get engaged, being engaged to be married is another thing.

When you are older you will understand that what you loved/liked at 17 you hate at 20 +.

I hope you still feel the same in 3 years time.

Please dont get pregnant.

Answer 2

JUST PUT IT THIS WAY I AM 23 IF I WOULD HAVE MARRIED THE GUY I WAS DATING AT 16 I WOULD HAVE BEEN DIVORCED WITH 3 KIDS BY NOW WAIT YOU CHANGE WAY TO MUCH. BY THE TIME YOUR 23 YOU WONT KNOW WHAT YOU SAW IN THE GUY YOUR DATING NOW

Answer 3

Yes, darling.

I know that what you feel is a deep and real love.

But you must keep in mind that love that lasts a lifetime is not all of the heart. It is about oh so much more than you feel right now, that you CAN feel. You have not experienced enough of life to know who you are going to be come even in the next 10 short years. There is a reason why so many young marriages end in divorce. In this life, there are many struggles and areas for you to grow in as you age. What you know now is a small glipse of what life will be like.

I don't say this to belittle what you are, or the love that you feel. I am sure that you are mature for your age, and that your love is real.

Just use more that your heart when you make these kind of decisions that last a lifetime. Love is not just about your heart---it is about logic and your mind in general. Much of it is like a business venture-what will you both bring to the table financially, emotionally, and spiritually. You have much mroe to think about, that you shouldn't have to think about now in your life. Enjoy your age and grwo into what you are going to grow into, without the pressure of becoming a marriage. Let yourself be single if you need to be, so that you can TRULY be the person you can be! You can be togethr, but don't put so much pressure on yourselves to work out. YOu haveYEARS to go!!

Answer 4

well love is love

age doesn't matter

but think about it,

your ONLY 16 and 17

you still have a couple more years until you turn 20

you two might now feel the same way about each other then

but if you REALLY love each other.

then no

its not too young.

Answer 5

Yes, you can't even legally get married.   Plus, don't you want to finish high school, go to college/trade school and get a good job.  Why do you want to rush to marriage?  There is a lot of responsibility in marriage.  Be a kid, while you are a kid.

Answer 6

Aiken Aiken Aiken...

Listen and listen well...

You need to finish school, and that means high school. And don't just finish school, but graduate with a good grades so that you can get into a good college. Get some education and learn from the world around you. Life experience is probably the best education you can get, but formal academic education will build the foundation for a structured lifestyle, which should involve a career that can bring you a stable financial way of life.

So yes I do KNOW that you are even too young to be engaged. High School and college are times to build who you really are and know what you are made of. Also think that alot can change from now until your 20s. One of you can feel different from the other and fall out of love.

So really really think about what you are doing, because you are still so young and these are the years to have FUN, not be tried down to just one person.

Good Luck

Answer 7

yes, you're too young.

Answer 8

You are not too young to be engaged.  I was 16 when i got engaged and my boyfriend was 20.  I'll be turning 18 in October and we plan on getting married next summer.  You are obviously too young to get married now, but you are waiting for that part.  I dont think that age can define your readiness for marriage, i think that your maturity defines your readiness.  Hopefully you and your boyfriend will still be together when you are 20 and you guys can get married.  Don't worry about what other people think of you and your situation. Love is love.

Answer 9

yes of course that's to young

Answer 10

um...I'm gonna say yes! not to say that you can't get married young (barely 22 here) but being attached like that can hold you back in ways you wouldn't even imagine. I know it can be hard to hold back on something that you want so badly but in the long run I truly believe that you will be happier with each other if you wait until after high school! Marriage is a forever proposition and should not be entered into lightly and I'm afraid that you too have no idea what you are getting yourselves into. maby try to get a promise ring, and a diploma, and reconsider the idea of marriage then. (besides both of your dreams are going to change in the next couple of years and if you are engaged or married you will have to take his dreams into consideration when making yours and hopefully he would do the same and it is always hard to give up something you love or aspire to for someone else (I gave up going to college in Hawaii to move to colorado in December or getting my degree in Elementary Education because I decided to marry a man with a full time job and the responsibilities that go with it. Don't get me wrong I would do it all again for my husband but giving up Hawaii for truck payments and rent and the laundry matt sucks. and those are the kinds of sacrifices that I think 16 is too young to make! no matter how much you love each other that's the kind of stuff one of you is going to look back on and say I wish I could have____________.

Answer 11

That's not to young at all. I would call that to young if you were getting married at 17, but you said you are not. So if you two are still together when you are in your 20's then go for it.

Answer 12

If you have to ask strangers on the internet, then yes, you are too immature to be getting engaged.

Answer 13

Yes its too young. At your age u love with this crazy intensity that u feel that it could never change or possibly end. I assure u that u have not experienced life enough to know who u will become in 10 years. Live this love that u are experiencing .... its a beautiful thing. If you guys are still together and in love when u reach your 20s then u could consider such a huge commitment. Its possible just don't jump the gun ..... live the stages.

Answer 14

You might be in love but you certainly don't have the maturity to be engaged. Until your old and mature enough to tell your family, then you're definitely too young. Wait until you're at least in your 20s- a lot changes after high school.

Answer 15

No I dont think you are too young, I am also engaged and getting married next summer, Im currently 17, I will be 18 by than. Do what you guys what to do. Do what YOU think is right.

Answer 16

yes O__O

Answer 17

People can tell you you are too young until the cows come home girl, but provided you and your boyfriend both know that marriage is an immense commitment and should be treated as a lifelong commitment, not simply something that may last for some period of time, then you should not worry what others thing. My parents were engaged at 17, married at 18 and are still together 22 years later, and now here I am, 18 and getting married in April 2009. Simply sit down and tell your parents EXACTLY how you feel - I cannot stress that enough. My parents did freak out slightly when they first found out their little girl was getting married, but once I alllowed them both to get involved in my wedding preparation, there was no looking back. Perhaps your mother is the sort of mother who'd enjoy getting involved in her daughter's big day? Best wishes and hope your parents take the BIG news well.

Answer 18

There is no too young to be engaged. There is however a too young to get married.

If you are still together by the time your are in your 20's then you deserve to get married.

Good luck.

Answer 19

If you have to ask, still live with your parents, aren't self-supporting, and need parental consent for all major decisions, you are too young. If you aren't going to get married until you're in your twenties, then don't get engaged until you're in your twenties. Enjoy being kids in love while you can.

Answer 20

My ex bf proposed 2 me when I was 16. Its a beautiful thing when ur in love and that's what u look forward 2. You are young yes. But Engagement is great if that makes u happy. Its nothing permanant. But as 4 marriage it would be best 2 at least be of age 2 drink at your own wedding reception. Just don't let the engagement get in the way of u being young and fabulous and enjoying your teen yrs. You can never get them back. Enjoy!!

Answer 21

I don't think you're too young to be engaged.  Too young to be married, yes.  I think it's terrific that you're going to wait until your 20s.

Use your long engagement to practice being married.  Practice showing consideration for him.  Practice making long-term plans together.  Practice operating as a team, and dealing with your families as a team.  Practice debt and financial management together.  These are skills you will need to be a successful married couple, and you can use this happy time to develop those skills.

Good luck!

Answer 22

don't listen to all those people who say that your too young to be engaged, they're just cynics.

I believe that age is an irrelevant matter in your situation.

You can't ask random people whether or not you should be engaged to someone else, only you can know that.

Just ask yourself do you love him enough to marry him and will you still love him when your in your 20's.

Answer 23

Yes, it's too young.  Wait and see if you're still together by the time your boyfriend is 18.  If so, get engaged (if you're ready) and get married after college (it's highly unlikely you'll stay together through college).  As a child you know nothing about what it means to make a lifelong, adult commitment.

And since you're asking a bunch of strangers on here, you obviously think you're too young...especially if you cannot tell your parents.