Am i to young to get married or is it the age difference ?

Question

my boyfriend asked me to marry him i am 17 till april and he's turning 25 on the 31st i love so much and he has done so much for me but my family keeps saying they do not like our age difference but my parents are fine with it cause they are 13 years apart and our family is fine with them am i just to young

Answer 1

I was engaged at 17, to someone a bit older, he was 21.. If you love him, I'd see how it plays out, tell him that if you get engaged you want a longer engagement.. Life has a funny way of working out and you are still young. Whats the rush of getting married if you have your whole lives to be together? Sounds S****y now but how long have you been dating? I'd wait a few years. People change a lot between the ages of 18 and 25. If he loves you he'll wait a few years. Make sure this is something you'll want a few years from now because marriage is supposed to be forever. I'm not with the person I was with when I was 17 and I'm very thankful for that now.. good luck!

Answer 2

Perhaps you hear a lot of the age different.

Let me share with you my story :

I'm a father, married at 19, going 20 years old while my while was 16 going 17.

We got married for 3 years and our daughter aged two this year.

What counts is our individual mind-set and what our pet peeves are.

Learning to take a step back in quarrels will helps.

Of course, you must love the other party as a first basic requirement.

Answer 3

life is way to much fun to be married this early.  Enjoy life  find out what a wonderful world we live in . before marriage

Answer 4

NO ONE SHOULD GET MARRIED BEFORE THE AGE OF 28.  Ask your parents and they'll agree.  I'm actually shocked that they're fine with you getting married at such young age.  

Answer 5

I don't think it matters how old you are or how many years are between you. I do believe that you have to know this is what you want. I had a boyfriend that I wanted to marry when I was 19 and (thank goodness) I didn't as it didn't work out. Love means different thing to a person as you mature. First it's, we have so much fun together, then, he treats me well. As you mature your view on love will change and you want him to not only treat you well but to be able to provide for a family and have a good job etc.

The other thing is - have you done all the things you wanted to do in life without ties ie: travel and work over seas, get your degree / education. Once you get married you will probably find that you want kids soon after?? Then you wont have time for all these things.

P.S. If you were sure about getting married you wouldn't have asked us. If he really loves you, he will wait for you.  

Answer 6

When it comes to age, I tend to lose some of my sensitivity so I apologize up front.

Yes, you're too young and yes the age difference is a problem.

Your Age - You are a child. You should not be thinking of marrying anyone.  You're 17 and should be concerned about college or something along those lines. If you don't plan to go to college, you should reconsider. Or learn a trade.  The fact that your boyfriend has done so much for you is a big problem. He may give you the same security as your mom and dad but you should not be experiencing this just yet. Your mom and dad should be taking care of you right now and not your boyfriend because you are a child - their child.

The Age Difference - He shouldn't be dating you.  He's too old for you.  Yes, your parents are 13 years apart but they're older and it doesn't make as much of a difference when you are older.  When you are a child, it does make a difference.  It makes you miss out on being a child. And now you are going to miss out on learning some independence as a young adult by marrying this guy so young.

No, I am not a believer in dating a whole bunch of people to the point that you end up jaded, but I am a proponent of gaining other life experiences that shape you into a woman and make you a better wife...later on, not now.

I'm concerned that your boyfriend does a lot for you.  Sometimes, this leads to a controlling situation.  Don't know the guy but I've seen it all before.  An older guy basically takes over for a young girl's parents and tries to control her because she doesn't know any better anyway.  Why, because she's a child and has no life experience.

I am now about to descend from my soapbox.  I speak truthfully and from my heart so I hope you are not offended. I have daughters so this is a sensitive subject for me. I wish you the best and pray God's wisdom for you in your life.

Take care!

Answer 7

I have nothing against age differences - I think relationships can work despite age (so long as both people are of legal age!)...Im 26 and my boyfriend is 20 - we've been together for a year and plan on getting married one day.

The point is to make sure you are ready to get married!

Perhaps have a long engagement - wait til you are 18?

Go for it!

If its what you want then go for it!  

Answer 8

age difference is not that big.. and .. go with your instinct.. if you love him, and you like to have him for the rest of your life.. why not? A friend of mine married someone 12 years older.. You cannot quite tell the difference, and they are happy.. so what else counts?

Answer 9

age don't have anything to do with it, are you ready mentality and emotionally

that is what you have to ask yourself.

Answer 10

You're too young for the responsibility of marriage.  If you even have to ask this question then you don't really know what you're doing.  And BTW a 25 yr old man should not be diddling a 17 yr old.  Just FYI.  

Answer 11

Its not the age difference. Its YOUR age. And he is not that old, either, no reason why he cant wait a few short years to get married.

Answer 12

there is a whole lot of world to be discovered before settling down with a mate. Get out there and explore it!

Answer 13

I don't want to say you're too young, because that makes you sound like a baby, and you're not- you're a young woman.  The thing is, you are legally singning a piece of paper that says you're doing being a young woman- that you're going to give up all of the traditional experiences of young adulthood- like turning 18, going out with your friends and meeting people you would not meet if you were married or in a very serious relationship.  You're giving up turning 21 with your girlfriends, living with roommates, having a traditional college experience, partying until 3:00am, having girl talk and ice cream until 2:00am with your friends, flirting with other guys, having guys take you on dates- some of them amazing, some of them terrible, and all of them worth telling your girlfriends while you eat breakfast together the next morning.  You're taking on a lot of responsibility, and you're allowing someone else to play a large part in who you become as an adult as opposed to having the freedom to figure it out through amazing experiences on your own.  I am going to turn 27 in 2 weeks, I am not married yet, but I thought about getting married at your age.  I was so in love with my boyfriend at the time, I honestly couldn't breathe when I thought about not being with him anymore.  He was my entire world.  But we started to grow up, we grew apart, and I wanted to experience being young, single, and independent.  He was not a bad person at all, but I could not be more glad that I did not marry him.  I had so many wonderful experiences that I would not give up for the world, and I know that I would have been so limited if I would have gotten married then.  I would have become one of the massive statistics of people who got married young, and got divorced shortly after.  I was very mature at your age, but I still needed time to grow.  So am I saying you're too young? No.  But I am saying that you'll be missing out on a lot if you get married now, and I don't know a single person my age who doesn't miss being younger with more freedom and less responsibility.  You'll never get time back, so make your decision wisely.  Good luck in whatever you decide to do!!!

Answer 14

you are too young

but you know him

we dont

Answer 15

wait until after college.

Answer 16

I dont think you are too young.

It isnt about age. It is about maturity.

I got married at 17. My husband and I had been together over 3 years and were very healthy. We both saved our virginity until marriage and actually got pregnant on the wedding night!

It was wonderful.

Dont listen to other people's advice. Only you know your heart. If your heart is set with him and you think his is set with you... then why wait?

But definitely think a lot about it. Marriage is wonderful, fun and beautiful. But it is also hard, and it last forever! (well it should)

Don't let people change your mind. You are almost an adult and have to start making your own decisions.

Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 17

YOU ARE FAR TO YOUNG TO GET MARRIED

Answer 18

I don't think the 8 yr age difference is a big deal... it's that you're so young. Do you really want to be married right now? Don't you have stuff to do? Like growing up?? I'm not trying to be rude, but seriously. I know you probablly don't realize it now, but you're going to be a different person even 5 yrs from now, not to mention 10 yrs from now. Do you really want to make a lifetime commitment as a 17 yr old? Why not go off on your own to college and grown and learn?  

Answer 19

it's the age difference

Answer 20

you are way too young, i mean, if its true love, you know it can wait, why would you want to get married now..you should really think about  it, it might be the biggest mistake of your life... you know it can wait

Answer 21

i think ur abit too young..

maybe 20 is fine..

ur not even 18 yett honey!!

Answer 22

Ive been with my gf for 4yrs and have a kid and not married(wereonly 22) thats way too young and the divorce rate is 50% so the odds are against u

Answer 23

you're tooo young wait until you be 20 at least

hey girl

live you life

xoxoxoxo

take care

sarah