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Am i to young to have s*x?

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Ok I'm 13 and I'm seeing this guy// Hes a really amazing guy.. And i told him about my family wanting me to wait until marriage... And he said it was bullshit and i agreed... We agreed when we hang out we would try to have s*x only try. I'm really excited but afraid at the same time.. I really like him hes 17. I know I'm just rambling on but i need to know... Am i too young.. I'm really mature for my age everyone i meet say I'm 1or 17 because how mature i am... I need your advice Please...

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its really up to you.

if you wanna have s*x sooo badly with him, and you really think hes the one, and youve known him for a while, then do it. but make sure you use protection. make sure he has a condom.

but if youve only known him for a few weeks/a month or two, dont.

seeing as hes 17 he probably is really mature and has ways of getting girls to do what they want, and then he probably ditches them.

its up to you. but whatever choice you make, make sure that its safe.
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Yes, you are. You are still a child. It needs time to get mature and having s*x with a guy. Be patience, please... :)
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If you are as mature as you say you are you would know that you are too young. You do not have to necessarily wait until marrage at all, but look at this guy. you told him of your family's belief on s*x and he just blew is off and called it bullshit. even if he did stringly disagree if he was actually a good guy he wouls express it in a more respectful way. PLus, think about this situation legally, in one year, when his man, (yes, man) is 18 it will be illigal for him to have any more s*x with you. it is plainly not a good idea. take it from someone who has been there, you do not want to do this, and make sure you do not have s*x just to prove you can be fore marraige. Wait until you meet a mature and sucessful stable man, and that will be about 5-10 years until you do. I stronly recommend you talk to someone close to you about this. This guys more than likely has bad inttentions, and maybe he doesnt even know it. This guys obviously has some sort of problem that is he is encouraging you, to have s*x with him. I is plainly not right. and you should really think about the medical aspect too, condoms do not and will not protect against STDs, too mant STDs to mention infertility, do you really wamt ot the tell that man you love, when you are in your 20s or so that you will never be able to have his baby. think about about that because, trust me it happens, all too often.

the plain answer is no, but i need to to really thionk about how terrible this choice is, you would also be cutting off yolur family by doing this, and if nothing else, hello they are all your finances, with out them, you have no money to your name. and you will be lonely as ever because not many young girls are going to want to make friends with a sexually active 13 or 14 year old

I hope for the best for you,

think aout everything and when you do you will know this is wrong,

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Mature for your age? Give me a break... he just wants to have s*x with you...nothing more, or less. And "try" to have s*x, there is no trying, its do or don't. You will regret it, because he will stop talking to you and he will just brag that he got a 13 year old to drop her pants.
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Don't be fooled by a horny teenage boy, if he was all that older girls would be chasing him,I guarantee after you have s*x ,he'll be off looking for the next girl. So be careful and take of yourself, because he wont.
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In my honest opinion, you are way too young, and 17 is too old for you.
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(shrug shoulders)

You'll get older, time goes by fast.
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First, if you need reassurance from a bunch of faceless strangers, than you are way to young.

Second, as this idiot is 17, that's rape.

I suggest you wait until you find some guy who doesn't pray on children, and until your sure enough about it to not have to ask a million people for their opinion. You know people are going to say you're too young, and that's the answer you are hoping for.
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your to young. WAIT!!! You will never be able to undo this mistake.
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Try staying a kid for alittle bit longer you have all of eternity to make love to someone but if you think about it and you still decide its something your emotionally and physically ready for make sure you use protection and make sure that you know if he has any STDS that can be given to you. More and more you see people just jump into bed together and then they wonder why they have genital warts herpess.Just be safe and use your head as you said your self your mature for your age and think about it first.
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holy im 13 and havent even dated ur way to young to even be dating a 17 yar old let him date girls his age then he can have s*x with them think about what caan happen:

get pregnant

get diseases

not bepure
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WAY TO YOUNG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
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Yes you are too young. Why does a 17 year old boy want to fool around with a 13 year old girl anyway? I mean don't you have any respect for yourself. 13... do you even know what s*x is? Stick to dating and wait till you are older to have s*x. I'm not saying wait till marriage but at least wait until you know for sure that s*x is something you want to do. Because you are young you might not be able to handle it emotionally. Don't do something you will regret later in life! Think about it and make the right decision!
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Way toooo young! What are you gonna do if you end up pregnant at 13? If he really likes you he would wait. If you are so mature like you say, you would know he is just trying to get in your pants. Hun wait. s*x is very complicated.
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too young
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I believe you do what you think is right.  Although, your hormones are going crazy right now, maybe saving yourself is a better idea.

I believe waiting for s*x is a PERFECT Idea.  I didn't wait, and I regretted it.

Not here to judge, but really think it through.
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well idk bcuz i just turned 14 and still a virgin i think im too young and u r 2 but i cant judge ne 1 soo good luck
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He sounds like a paedophile. Why is he with a 13 year old? That's sick. You're being abused as he shouldn't be making you think of that at your age. He's only interested in using you.

You're really naive if you think a 17 year old who talks a 13 year old into s*x is a great guy. He's only with you because it would be more difficult to find somebody younger to do it to. Somebody should report him so he's arrested so he doesn't try to have s*x with other children.
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Ignoring any moral questions, if this guy has s*x with you it will automatically be rape. he would probably be jailed and added to the s*x offenders register. Looking at your current age, it would put him in the same league of paedophile as Garry Glitter!

I don't believe for one moment that you are mature enough to know what you are doing, but I would be pretty sure he knows exactly what he is up to. A 17 year old going out with a 13 year old girl is basically grooming!
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You're 13! You should be worried about Hannah Montana not about s*x! And he's 17, all he wants is s*x, he's not going to want the baby after you get pregnant. Think about the consequences before you make a life-altering decision.*
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yes you are, please be aware of the consequence, and besides his 17 it seems to me like he just wants s*x. his more mature than you are, you should wait tell him your not ready until you much older if he really love you
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Yes you are too young, and there are many reasons why you need to wait at least until you are 16!!!

Do not listen to the boy friend, for he is just wanting and does not understand your place in this.

It is more about allowing your body to mature more than frame of mind. Pleae wait!!! Please wait for you may get more than a s*x event, you may have a mind blown as well..... it is not time, 13 is way too young. I have seen more women permantly messes up from having s*x that young. 16 is the earliest I would say, other wise you are just not expereincing it well enough and then you become a play thing for men without much enjoyment yourself.

Preserse and protect your most precious asset and that is your sexuality! Respect yourself more!

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please dont , you are too young.
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Ok first of all, age isn't the only factor in determining whether or not you are ready to have s*x.  It is also maturity, and you say you are very mature for your age.  With that said, keep in mind that s*x will change everything.  It really does.  Either it will bring you both closer together or it will destroy your relationship.

Sometimes guys will act more distant after you guys have done that, and you have to be prepared emotionally just in case that does happen so you don't start getting needy and depressed.  Or it could be the other way around, where you become more distant and he is the clingy one.

I don't know what your relationship is like with him, but through my own experience I would tell you not to trust older men when you are only 13.  It's only an opinion.

Please don't forget to use protection.  If you have already thought about this, good! If not, then I can't stress it enough because it's not just about pregnancy, you have to protect yourselves from any possible STDs.  If either of you would rather go unprotected because you don't like the feeling then youre not as mature as you though.  Just look for other alternatives, there are so many different types of birth control methods.  Find the one that is right for you.

Also something that is very important is for you to remember to respect yourself, I know it sounds corny or whatever but it's really important.  Respect yourself so others will respect you.  I hope this helped, feel free to message me with any questions.
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look sweetheart, if you are 13 do not date a 17 year old. I'm sure you are a very pretty young girl, but for a 17 year old guy to date a 13 year old teenager is very weird on his part. On that basis alone, I'm sure this guy is a loser and has no chance of succeeding in life. I'm sorry to say that honey but you should drop this guy and date someone closer to your age. Wait a few more years to have s*x, trust me kiddo.
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Read everything about first time s*x (see below web) and decide yourself. If you are asking - it means you are thinking - which is very good!
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You are way to young to have s*x and too young no matter how mature you are to be hanging out with someone 17. You need to find friends your age. My opinion is he just wants to pop your cherry and then move on to some other young girl. Get away from him. Wait until you are at least 18. Or better yet wait until you get married.
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if you have to ask that question you are.
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I think 13 is WAY too young to have s*x.
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Although 13 years olds may be physically ready for s*x, you are no where near mentally ready. The fact your even questioning this should be enough proof you are NOT ready. I wanted till I was 21! Your partner would be breaking the law by having s*x with you. Just wait till your older and more ready. Don't throw it away
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13 it wayyyy to young and dont you know that if you have s*x with a 17yearold guy he can go to jail even if it was conceptual its called statatory rape(I know i didnt spell that right)Its against the law and if you parents find put they will get him sent to jail
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