Am i too Picky with Women?

Question

I was speeking to on the phone with on of my friends who's a girl (not girlfriend) and she asks me what is my ideal wife. I say i wanted a self confident wife who is also humble and understanding, who has ambition to do something with herself, who has a good head on there shoulders. On top of that i also said that i wanted her to be a virgin. Its not like i was trying to be a jackass or something but i was raised in a religion that told me to marry woman like myself . Now im not saying that ALL virgins are virtuous and ALL women that are not virgins arent. Because some of the females who i know are virgins are azzholes. But im saying that i would a little unforfortable marrying a woman who has already shared an experince with someone else that i think we should have shared toghether. Then my friend said i was being to picky . Am i ?

Answer 1

who remains virgins until they get married? what are you, living in 1700's Amish Country?

Answer 2

No. That's just what you believe. There's nothing wrong with having morals like that.  

Answer 3

I think its perfectly acceptable to want a virgin if you yourself are a virgin.

In general i dont think there is any such thing as being too picky.  Too picky for whom?  If you (not you personally, a general "you) are a picky person, and cant find anyone for you, that is the criteria that you have set for yourself.  As long as its not too picky for you, it shouldn't matter what anybody else thinks.  As long as you are happy waiting for Mr or Mrs Right to come along, your criteria is your criteria.

Answer 4

No, you are not being too picky.  I personally wouldn't ever have s*x with a male virgin because the more sexually experienced a man is, the better he is in bed and I don't like wasting my time on them teaching stuff like I'm their mother or something.  A man needs to be a real man and come into a relationship with me with some sexual competence or what good is he, seriously?  Because I only want s*x out of relationships with men, they aren't desirable to me if they are novices.  I can always find a better man, a real man if you know what I mean, in that regard.  I especially like oral and a man needs to know how to do that rather well to meet my expectations.  Just personal preferences about what we want out of our mating partners.  

Now, if we're talking about forming a true covenant of love, any crapola about virginity and purity isn't about morality.  It's about wanting "unused goods" and that's about the sexual objectification of another human being, such as what it felt like when you were reading the first facetious part  of this answer, that men or women are mere "things."  There isn't anything "holy" or moral about treating people as mere "things".

Answer 5

No. I want a virgin husband.. I don't want to know another women got to his body before me.. yuck.

Answer 6

The way I see it, if you want to marry a virgin (and see it as an ideal) and you yourself are not a virgin then your being hypocritical. Now if you are a virgin too then go for it!

Answer 7

No - you aren't picky.  You are young and idealistic.  And, perhaps, a little insecure.  No offence intended...

Answer 8

Yeah Dannu, you probably are BUT...it's your decision as to what you are looking for, no one elses.  The thing is, you may never find your perfect girl, so be willing to be flexible on some of your desired qualities.

Answer 9

you know what you want, that's good but if you get too picky then you'll be alone forever.  now my main reason for answering this was because i have a message for latrice so I hope she gets this;

Latrice, who the h**l do you think you are not only to refer to women as "whores" but then to use the Quran as a source??? wow, you really are one dumb @$$ stupid B***H!!!