my parents decided to have a seperation 2 weeks ago. Yesterday my mother moved in to a rental house.
my parents are still on talking terms and are polite yet honest with eacother, they aren't fighting. They know that the reason they are separating is because they have trouble meeting the others emotional needs.
Dad needs mum to be more "active" in their relationship, do more fun things, go out places with him, be involved in social circles, be fun at home, laugh and joke around.
Mum needs dad to spend more "quiet" time with her, having coffee's and sitting and gossiping at the table, rubbing her feet, watching movies together, reading books together.
Neither is happy with the other's lifestyle preferences so they went to a counsellor, and the counselor said they needed at least 6mths apart before they will be ready to comprimise with eachother.
ANYWAY.. i live in the same town as them, and am very close with them both. I helped them move mum into her new house. Helped dad set up the old house. Helped them both do their first big shop to set up their respective houses.
am i too involved by being there as support for both of my parents?
I am 28, pregnant and married. I have an older sister who isn't talking to my parents as she has her own thing going on, And a younger brother who lives overseas.
I want to support both parents and be there for them should they need a shoulder during these changing times. But i fear that i might be getting in the way, or over stepping a line or something.
what do you think?
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