Am i too late?

Question

I have three big bridesmaids 2 sisters and best friend, i didnt ask my sister in law to be because she sometimes makes me feel not good enough. as ive started to plan my wedding shes been more interested then my acctual bridesmaids (one has a new baby one is getting married herself and the other has a busy life) wuld it look like an afterthought to ask her now?

Answer 1

that is a sticky situation to be in  but dont count your other friends totally out having a baby and planning their own wedding is very time consuming but it doesnt mean that your wedding isnt important to them as well so just give them time dont 2nd guess yourself....and its nice that the situation with your sister in law is evolving that can definatly make your married life easier you wouldnt know it know by looking at us but my sister in law hated me with a passion when i started dating my husband but this weekend is actually our 3rd annual vacation together so you just never know...i would sit her down and say that you know your relationship hasnt always been good  but you feel like lately you two have gotten closer and ask her if she would like to be in your wedding (as long as you dont have to kick your other friends out because then that will open another whole can of worms that you should seriously thing about) but in saying that you also have to remember that just because shes interested to you think shes genuine? and if you are considering cutting out your other choices is it worth risking potentail life long relationships/ friendships over a bit of bad timing? the best soulution would be to have all of them in the wedding but dont ask your sister soley because shes being nice and your getting along dont do it for ettiquet reasons in my opinion if you think you could have a relationship with her other then now shes/your family then its definatly worth opening up to her and letting her know that you like how things have been going that you enjoy getting to closer to her would she be willing to be a part of your wedding....ok goodness im going to shut up now that i have rabbled on and on LOL good luck and congratulations

Answer 2

if u  feel that her attitude has turned around and she is not making u feel less then urself...ask her!

Answer 3

Ask her! It would please your husband and your in laws! She is already a part of your family!

Answer 4

No just say something like you feel like you've gotten closer to her through the wedding planning process and you'd love if she would be one of her bridesmaids

Answer 5

The next time that the two of you are discussing wedding details say to her in an offhand manner, "You are so much fun to talk about this stuff with, I wish you were one of my bridesmaids! I don't supposed you'd like to be one, would you?".

Answer 6

This may sound cynical but what will she be like after the wedding.  If your weren't comfortable before will life change after the festivities?

If you believe that the two of you have grown closer and you have decided to include her just say so.  Tell her how much you have learned to appreciate her and ask her if she would like to be included.

Remember its your wedding so only do what makes you comfortable and happy.

Best wishes.

Answer 7

Not if you ask her in a way that makes her feel good. For example,

"I did not think you'd be interested in doing this, but now I see how involved you are, and I was wondering, I mean I know its late, but would mean so much if you...would you like to be a bridesmaid? You can say 'no' but...I mean would you?

Answer 8

It depends on how soon your wedding is.  If there is still plenty of time to go before the wedding, then you should go ahead and ask her.  If the wedding is soon, then it would look kind on strange.  

Ask her how she feels about being a bridesmaid.  If she would like to then go ahead and ask her to be one.  If she feels that it is sudden or too short of notice, then don't.

Answer 9

It might be tacky to ask her now but how about making her a special part of your wedding almost like an honorary MOH

Answer 10

I think you should tell her the reason as to why you didnt ask her in the begining. Then you would simply state how much help she has been to you during the process and then ask her.

hopefully she says yes and stops her preivous behavior. Good luck

Answer 11

does she know that u already asked the other girls?  i dunno i think i would just say hey, i picked out the bridesmaids dresses make your appointment to get fitted! and if she says i didnt know i was int he wedding, u can say - well of course you are i figured it was a given!