Am i too old to have children?

Question

I am 35. I would love to have children some day, but I am in college getting my BA, Am I better off waiting or adopting? I want to wait until I'm more financially stable to have kids......

Answer 1

so why don't you just adopt there is nothing wrong with adopting kids. I mean I know my best friends mom had her last child at 38 there is always a risk so just consult your doctor and see if you are in good health. But its nothing wrong to adopt god bless

Answer 2

Ultimately it's your decision when you want to have children but in my opinion I would have a baby now if I was in your shoes. However, I would plan it carefully. I would plan to have my baby at the beginning of the summer so that I could spend quality time with him/her. I would have my husband, BF care for us during that time. I know that many people will disagree with me but that's fine. If you don't do it now when will you? Once you receive your degree you are going to want to built a career and then you will put maternity on hold again. Next thing you'll know, you will be 40 and that's when you will definitely think that you are old.

I would definitely get pregnant now if your partner is ready to support your financially, emotionally and provide a stable living environment.

Good luck on your decision.

Answer 3

too old out of the question

Answer 4

no you are ready when you are ready

Answer 5

Not too old to be a parent, but I wouldnt risk pregnancy.

Risks for down syndrom skyrocket after 36, and go up percentages each year older you get.

Why risk something that devastating?  Just adopt

Answer 6

your not too old bu after  around 35 complications and birth deffect risks get much higher especially down syndrom so i would adopt if you dont mind... otherwise they will be checking you for all sorts of extra things durring pregnancy

Answer 7

I just turned 35, and I have a 1 1/2 year old daughter.  I also have friends you are 40 and have a newborn, it all depends on how you take care of yourself, and one thing I know is true;" You can never be financially stable enough to have children".  I understand that you want to  be able to provide for them, what I'm trying to say is there's no time like the present...

Answer 8

No, you're not. I'd say after 45 is too old.

Answer 9

No!

Answer 10

people these days are waiting until there late 30's early 40's to have babies. You are definitely not to old.

Answer 11

Absolutely not. Adoption is a beautiful thing, though.

Answer 12

Actually after 35 is when it starts becoming difficult to have kids and a higher rate of mentally retarded children. I think you should try now. college can wait. And as for finance, a father of 4 once told me "you are never financially ready to have kids" If you want to have children, do it now.  

Answer 13

If you wait too much longer you are at increased risk for miscarriage, complication with the pregnancy, and at an increased risk for birth defects like down syndrome. I know after 35 they consider the woman advanced maternal age and classify her as potential high risk. But this is only a generalization. There are lots of women who have had healthy children after 35. Hollywood actresses do it all the time. So, I'm not saying rush out and get pregnant but I am saying that your biological clock is ticking. As long as when you do get pregnant you get good medical care I think everything will work out for you. God blesses the deserving everyday and if you are meant to conceive then you will or if you are meant to be a mother to a motherless child then you will. Have a blessed night.  

Answer 14

I absolutely don't think you're too old. When I first saw the question, I was wondering how old you would be and wondering what I would say but, 35 is no way too old. You may end up with infertility issues if you wait much longer but, that of course depends on many factors. I would say some time between now and when you're 40 is fine to still want and to still have children! Even beyond 40 but, it can be difficult to conceive.

Answer 15

I wouldnt say that you are too old now but to be honest, chances of getting pregnant significantly reduces after you hit 40 since this is the time that women actually start getting early signs of menopause. So see where your life goes but i wouldnt give your hopes up.

Answer 16

It is DEFINITELY not too late! I am 35 and pregnant with twins. I have 5 boys already, and plan on having many more children.

Answer 17

No, you're certainly not too old.  I had 3 healthy children at ages 37, 41 and 44.  Though not by choice.  (We struggled with infertility for many years, and I adopted my first child when I was 31.)  My pregnancies were uncomplicated and the births were natural.  "Older" moms these days are so much healthier than the older women who gave birth decades ago.  We're more conscientious about our health; we eat healthier and exercise more.  Because I was an older mom I was SO ready for them.  Don't give up your dreams to adopt, give birth or do both.  You'll do fine.  Just don't wait too long (LOL)!

Answer 18

No, you're not too old :D

My mom had her first child at 33 and me at 35, and we're fine :D  

Answer 19

No, you're only 35! My aunt had her second at 34, and she had fertility problems to begin with.

I wouldn't wait though, after 40 it become harder and harder to have children.