Am i too young to have a baby??

Question

my fiance and i have been together a little over 5 years now...we are both 22 yrs old....two years ago i found out i had pcos...which makes it difficult in getting pregnant...just last year we have been ttc...i feel i should try when im young than when i get older...we have parents who are supportive and wants a grandchild...are we too young???

Answer 1

No your married so I say go for it.

Answer 2

no

Answer 3

If you have the means and support to take care of a child and it's something that you both want, then by all means, go for it!  I would suggest getting married first though, as it's hard to plan a wedding, etc. with a baby on the way.  It's very stressful (the wedding planning part).  Plus, then you'll have the security that he is your husband and (hopefully) wouldn't just walk out on you.

Answer 4

everyone is different. I had my first when i was 26 almost 27 and i'm glad i waited but i had been trying for a couple of years so it just worked out that way. If you feel you are ready and you are over 18 i say go for it.

Answer 5

I don't think you are too young. If you feel that the both of you are mature and finacially stable then why not. My husband and I had a very hard time getting pregnant, I was probably your age when I started thinking about motherhood and now I'm 27 and just had my first child. Your right it may take you a while to get pregnant and if you won't more then one child then  you should start trying. Good luck to you both!!  

Answer 6

i dont think so i am 21 and want a baby  

Answer 7

do u feel ready to be a parent? i mean do u have the $ the time and the patience? its never too early or too late to get pregnant its more like are you ready to be a mommy

Answer 8

I don't think there is ever a right age to have a baby. That depends entirely on the people themselves. I know people that are 40 that I wouldn't trust with my dog and then I know teenagers that would make great parents! You guys have been together quite a while, but 22 is still young. I think people do a lot of growing up between the ages of 20 and 30- so much in fact that sometimes you aren't even the same person in some areas. That is something to think about.

My fiance's first marriage ended because of this. The gal that he married was young (20) and she had never been with anyone else. 10 years later (after they had a child) she decided she didn't get to live life for herself and walked out on them.

You should ask yourself if you two are truly committed to each other and to being a family forever. That is great that your parents are supportive but don't jump into it because you think it will be now or never. I don't think age is the issue at all. it is just a number. Ask yourselves if you are mature enough and commited enough for a family. If the answer is yes, then go for it! And good luck ttc if you decide to!

Answer 9

No way you're too young. I am 23 and 20 weeks pregnant. We started trying when I was 22, and had a miscarriage then. I would be mum to a 7 month old if that pregnancy had gone to term. I also have a mild case of PCOS so was very worried about my ability to conceive, so I self treated myself and began ovulating again (I was experiencing anovulatory cycles). I can understand why you would want to try now with this condition and not wait, that is exactly how I felt. I am in a stable relationship and financially we are fine. Honestly, it seems that people are waiting until they are in their 30's nowadays, whereas 30 years ago people were still concieving more in their 20's. Women are working now and have careers, so the majority are having children later, so it seems that people like you and me are young! I say go for it!

Answer 10

I'm going to turn 23 two months before I give birth to my first and I'll be in my first year of med-school. We have only been together a year but have both defeated drugs and alcoholism for over 2 years so we've experienced enough of life that we are both in school and committed to one another.

As most others have already said, it's not a number issue so much as a support issue. Do you feel ready to have a child? Have you talked through religion, schooling, moving, plans for the future, budgeting, etc? Are you and your significant other willing to become 2nd to each other for a child?

Financially, yes a child is expensive, but I understand where you are at. What if you wait until you are in a situation and then find out you lost your chance to have your own child? I know there will be many people screaming adopt but there is some ego-refreshing thing about passing on your and the person you've chosen genes and DNA.

The only thing that worries me is the parent bit, remember will your child, not theirs.

Oh, and ignore the day-care bit on here. Although in a dream world, all mothers would love to do nothing but stay with their baby 24/7 for at least the first six years sometimes it takes  two parents working full time to start building up that college savings plan and paying the monthly health insurance premium.  

Answer 11

i don't believe age is a factor. if you're ready to have kids, then have kids. don't worry about people who say that you should wait til your 30 and stuff like that, that's them, and you are you.

I'm 24, i've been with my husband for 6 years, married for 18 months and expecting our first baby. we're both ready to have kids now, our life is more on track than a lot of 30 year old.....

good luck!

Answer 12

absolutely not!!! my boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years and i am 5 months pregnant. i am almost 20 and he is 21. we are sooo happy. you guys have been together for so long so i think you are ready as a couple. and it truly is a blessing. this pregnancy was an accident but we are so ready for our little one to get here! trust me you are not too young! good luck!!

Answer 13

As long as you are financially stable, go for it, your not to young, you engaged and committed to each other and its something you both want, plus you should get your shape back too at that age lol good luck :-)

Answer 14

hi there

I found out i had pcos when i was 13. now 25 (26 in a week).

i started ttc when i was 16. took 9 years to ttc.

I dont think your to young, just right... if you  feel ready and are emotionally stable as well as finacially then go for it.

ask ur doc about metformin,,, this is not a fertiity drug, its for insulin resistant people who are diabetic as well as having pcos... I found out after all those years that i needed that metformin to regulate things then within 2 months i was preggers, and gave birth 7 days ago...

Answer 15

No you're not. I got married when i was 18, i was on the pill and still got caught. my daughter is 8 now, I was 18 when she was born. I've now got 3 children and can't imagine ever not having them. I was young to start my family, but i believe everything happens for a reason, my children are the best thing to ever happen to me. If you feel ready for children then go for it. Good luck to you and lots of baby dust!

Answer 16

I think you are still too young to have a baby. I think almost all the posts are from people 13-22.

1. Your not married.

2. Do you have the financial stability to support the cost of raising a child for the next 18-25 years? Do you have maternity insurance coverage - before trying to conceive!

3. Who will take care of the child? Will you stay at home or stick the kid in "day care." If the answer is the later, you are not ready.

4. Can the 3+ of you live on a single income in complete comfort, no struggle or have to tighten up financially?

5. Have you discussed w/ him how to raise the child; diet, religion, values, morals, lifestyle, programing (tv/ media exposure), etc. The difference in values can conflict dramatically on child raising, and a marriage.

6. Is there even one "little" issue that is ongoing and bothers you or him about the other? If so, this will magnify in marriage 10,000x, and will magnify 100,000x when you have a child.

7. Can you explain the reasons why you want to have a baby, and why now? Many young people have no clue why they want to have children, they just "do." This is more biological drive than family planning.

8. How will you both handle it when you or him want to go out with friends and you are pregnant or have a baby?

I have done volunteer counseling from teens to adults over 14 years. I've seen many scenarios play out. This is not the first time I have heard this question.

A lot of people think they are ready and think they are emotionally mature at these ages but when you are older 35-40 you will realize that you were not.

Statistically, marriage at under 25 has a much higher divorce rate than 30, 35. I'm not saying wait til your 30-35 to get married, but  I would consider waiting until your in your mid 20's perhaps.

Of course it really depends on the level of your relationship. Sometimes these high school sweetheart relationships work out. Most don't however.

I would suggest:

1.  Some premarital counseling first to test and see how ready you both really are. Getting an objective professional can save you from a nightmare of problems later.

2. I strongly advise a prenup that includes how will you deal with custody issues, finances etc, if it does not work out. Everyone walks into a relationship thinking "ours will last forever." Well, the reality is over 50% discover they were wrong.

3. If you feel you are ready for marriage, wait 3 years before having children. Most marriages fail within 2 1/2 years. You want to nurture the relationship. dating and being married is not the same. The relationship changes. It is not all fantasyland, and you can go home and do your own thing when ever you want.

I'm not trying to dissuade you from having a baby or getting married. I'm only trying to get you to think about both sides of the (reality) picture. And by looking at both sides, that can test you to see if you should do this now, or if you can wait a bit longer.

Good luck at whatever you do!

Answer 17

no i wish 20 when i had my first baby

Answer 18

No you're not to young