Am i wasting time, by trying to affect change?

Question

My gf and I broke up in Feb. She contacted me in may and we have been talking a lot and seein each other. She lives in a one bedroom apartment and a male friend stay with her now, who she claims is just a friend, they have had s*x, but they are not in a relationship. She says that loves me, wants to be with and just needs alil time to get him to move out. 4 months have passed nothing has, i kept holding on and waiting because i love her with all my heart. I just dont know what to believe anymore. She makes me feel like i am bad, horrible person because i get angry at the unorthodox things that she does, that looks shady and dont add up. She lies to me, i hate being lied to so i find the truth and confront her. She turns everything around on me to make feel like i was wrong for finding the truth instead of her being wrong for lying!

Answer 1

u need to leave her alone it will never be right  

Answer 2

if shes liveing with another guy, that she admits to haveing s*x with, and she lies to you, than are you sure she loves you? you probably make her feel better about herself... she could very possibly be useing you to make herself feel better. your just gettin hurt here. you need to stop giveing her the choice to hurt you.. tell her how it is... she loves you or she doesnt... and if she doesnt than you need to move on.. that will be very super hard to do but sweety it will be the best thing for you.

good luck

Answer 3

That sucks, but I don't think there's much you can do except, let her go. If you really care about her, ad she's not trying to fix herself for you..let her go. It's just making you be in more pain then you really need to be. If you can stright up go up to her and explain all this to her, she might come around, but you guys wouldn't do well in a relationship, obviously, because even though you aren't in one with her now, you guys still argue. If you really love her, and she can't change for you, then just let her go.

Answer 4

I am sorry to hear that. But question yourself, Do you really love her? Really really really? Is she worth waiting for? If you truly love her, you will wait a your lifetime for her, but if you dont, move on with your life.

Answer 5

Don't waste another moment of your time on her. You do not want to be with a proven liar. As the saying goes...a leopard can't change it's spots!