Am i wrong? according to my friend i am?

Question

okay so i went to the fair with my two friends lets say julie and hannah... and my other friend (um lisa) got really mad because i didn't invite her. she texted messaged me this --- wow thanks for inviting me to the fair-- and so i texted her back that i didn't have any say in the planning process and you should ask hannah and lisa if you can come... well she got all mad and started this HUGE fight about how I'm a bad friend, and i should of invited her.... okay so the question--- did i really do something wrong? was i supposed to ask hannah and julie if lisa could come? or is she just over reacting? what do i do in the future when this happens?

Answer 1

well, you didnt plan anything. I mean if they planned and invited people, then why should you, the guest, invite people. Call her back adn explain everything to her. You didnt do anyhting wrong.

Answer 2

I think the easiest explanation is that Lisa likes you and she was jealous that you went with Hannah and Julie and not her. So next time, you just need to make sure that Lisa gets invited, even if you have to tell Hannah and Julie that you want her to come.

Answer 3

I don`t think that you are wrong if you did`nt have any part in the planning process. However your friend probably thinks that you are being shady and not even thinking about whether or not she wanted to go or not. I think that you should talk to your friend about how you did`nt have any say on who got invited. Additionally did you think about your friend when you went to the fair? Maybe hannah and Lisa did`nt want to invite lisa just you. I don`t really think that you were wrong but your friend probably think you did `nt invite her intentionally if that is the case than talk to your friend about how you did`nt have any say in who came or not.

Answer 4

She feels leftout but your not wrong Julie and Hannah was the ones who planned it but still! Ur friend shouldn't be starting a fight with U when U have nothin 2 do with it. She's overreacting. She needs to be talking to hannah and Julie.

Answer 5

It depends- if u, hannah, julie and lisa do stuff together a lot then u should have invited her, so u would be in the wrong. If they dont really know lisa then thats fine, she shouldnt expect an invite.

What i do if i think someone is going to be left out is i ask whoever is organising if they're gonna ask that person, then i hope they get the message.

And i have to say, i can see why lisa would be annoyed but i think to have a massive fall out is a bit of an over-reaction

Answer 6

depends how you look at it she just feels left out.apologize and say u understand she felt left out and ask if you can still be friends if she still kicks up a fuss ignore he she is over reacting.at the same time do you really have to do everything with this friend a bit stalkerish!

Answer 7

you shouldn't feel bad, she's being childish. you don't have to invite her everywhere you go. im sure there's been times when she went somewhere and didn't invite you. so, if she tries to bring it up again, remind her of a time when she went somewhere without you. good luck!

Answer 8

i hope you two are alright now but i dont think your in the wrong but i do think that maybe you should of asked your friends if she could come.

....but on the other hand your friend has got to understand that she cant always be involved in EVERYTHING you do because you will get fed up of each other and thats when all the arguements start.

its a bit like having a boyfriend if you do everything together you get bored of each other and get on each others nerves and end up splitting up you got to have your own space and do things sepretly but also do things together too.

hoped this helped and good luck with your friendship!

Answer 9

"Lisa" should have asked if she wanted to come so badly. No you didn't do anything wrong. No you weren't supposed to ask Hannah and Julie if Lisa should come. If she wanted to come bad enough she would have said something!! Lisa just wants to start drama. Lol.

Just ignore her, and later on she will be begging to be your friend again!

TRUST ME! =]

Answer 10

she felt left out....you should have invited her.

Answer 11

I think you shouldn't beat yourself up over this.  At the end of the day, why blame you! If Lisa really wanted to go to the fair she should have, why did she need to be invited? Can't you all just hang out as and when you feel like?

Also, in the future just send a global text when arranging to go out (that's what I do) e.g "Anyone fancy pub tonight?" then I always send it to my 4 best mates, therefore no-one feels left out.

Lisa will realise son enough that she's been real immature and you should say to her "well in future, don't feel like yuo need to be invited, just come along." I personally think she's in the wrong.  If I was her I would have texted "Hey I hear you lot are at the fair, mind if I tag along?" rather than start an argument!! Life is a better place without fights!! :)

Answer 12

your friend should understand that just cause your friends does not mean you are obligated to do everything with her include her in everything and tell her everything i have many friends and if 2 ask me to go somewhere and i don't call one of my other friends and invite them to come they could care less ....you had every right to go to the fair  with someone besides her

Answer 13

forget her,,maybe she is just jealous thats just a little mistake,,and she is the bad friend,,best of luck

Answer 14

well it was up to you if you wanted her to go with you guys.  She doesn't have to go every where you go.  I understand you both are friend but for the sake of god you are not her keeper.  NO you didn't do anything wrong.  She is just jealous.  If the future do nothing but go where you want its not like she's your boyfriend.

Answer 15

For her throwing the tantrum that she did I would question her as a friend anyway. No body wants a clingy friend. You should be able to hang out with a different set of friends without her. Is she crazy?

Answer 16

Depending on your age, that sounds like crazy jealousy.

Answer 17

it depends if shes your friend why not invited,but since you did not invite she should not be so upset about it because there always a reason for the no invited and it's a fair she can go if she wants it's public everybody invited.

Answer 18

i dont think you were wrong , if your friend wanted to go to the fair so much why dident she ask you

friends can have other friends too  , your friend needs to grow up before she has no friends left  

Answer 19

So, you were asked to go by your 2 other friends right? If this is so and you did not invite the other 2, then no you did nothing wrong. Thats like getting invited to someone elses party and then your friend getting mad that you didnt invite them to it.....its not your party, you dont have the right to give out invitations, so no you are not in the wrong.

Answer 20

Lisa is the bad friend, she thinks that you must bring her wherever you go, and you must fight for her is she was not invited. This means that she thinks you must act like a servant to her so she can be happy with you.

This is a good thing she is not longer your friend. Let her go.  

Answer 21

i dont think you were wrong if you didnt have a say in the planning but maybe after you found out what was going on you should have texted and let lisa know what was going on and asked if she wanted to go