Am i wrong for this? my brothers girlfriend has a kid and i wont allow that kid near mine.I dont think i am

Question

this kid is 7 a boy. my girls are 3 and 1.

its my brothers girlfriends kid. and the reason i don't want that kid at my house or near my kids is that my brother told me that her kid had my 3 yr old's clothes off and was on top of her.

now she and my brother is mad about me not wanting that kid here. this is my house, i paid for it, so why cant they see why I don't want that kid near my girls. and when my brother and his girlfriend told me about it they was laughing like its funny.

i see nothing funny about it. that kid has seen something shouldn't of or had something done to him.I don't find it funny.

they act like i have no reason to be upset over this,

Answer 1

That is something a 7 year old shouldn't be doing, whether he knows what he's doing or not, its not nice, and it could turn out to be something worse. Anyway, i think you have every right to not let this kid see your girls.

Answer 2

I would be very upset about this.  You are correct that he has seen something or been exposed to something inappropriate.  I would definitely keep him away from my daughters (if I had any).   I'm not saying this is definitely what happened, but many kids who are sexually abused act out sexually on other kids.  It's just something to be aware of.  

Answer 3

Stand your ground, it's not about being nice it's about protecting your children which is much more important than having someone like you or not.

Answer 4

you have every right to be upset he was molesting your child you have every right to protect your children from abusers. GOOD JOB AND KEEP UP THE WORK!

Answer 5

You have every reason to be upset. f that was my brother girls child, Id be sitting them down for a stern talk. he may be only 7, but its not an issue to joke about and take lightly

Answer 6

YOU ARE NOT WRONG! I would NEVER let that boy in my house, ever. I dont have kids and I STILL wouldnt let him in my house! I dont know why your brother and his girlfriend find this funny. Maybe you need to explain to them that its not okay for the boy to sexually abuse your daughters. If they cant understand that then maybe its time to just not associate with them until they come to their senses.

This is something to take seriously.

Answer 7

The bottom line is that you HAVE to protect your children. Period. I have a 3 year old daughter as well and am always very cautious about the men (or boys) coming into my home. The fact is you never know and its YOUR responsibility to protect your child. I wouldnt let him in my home either! Its not funny and i would be concerned if i was that boys mother.

Answer 8

you are absolutely right to protect your girls

The fact that they are laughing is sending him a very wrong message and will most likely mean he will do it again.

Who cares if they are mad, they aren't sounding like great people to be around anyway, family or not.

By the way, he may have a history of being a victim and this could intensify things.

Maybe his mom should sit up and pay attention, or unfortunately maybe she is too busy laughing.