Am stuck in a Rut what can i do?

Question

i live near my mother who is not well and depends on me a little. i cant get a full time job so i work part time because my husband wont look after our kids from 3.30pm when school ends he works for him self so he can choose what time he works...also i want to move to a bigger house out of the area where i live but then theres my mum to worry about...every thing is just the same day in day out every week am so fed up i dont know what to do...my husband leaves every thing in the house for me to do...i want to go to the gym twice a week but cant again because my husband comes home late from work...so am just stuck here in a rut with the kids after school but i work during the day part time.i see my mates now and again but thats in the evening at weekends when he is home...

Answer 1

you NEED to explaine things to the husband !

tell him your wants and needs !

Answer 2

Always always always remember and remind yourself constantly that it wont always be like this. One day you will be scooting your kids off to school and be left with a whole day to "find yourself" again. Just love your kids in the meantime and remember they didnt ask to be born so they need you for now. You sound like a great mother, you must be to put up with lack of help from your husband. When the day comes that you get some free time, if your hubby asks for anything then tell him where to go. 5 years from now, you will not be the same girl sitting here typing for help.

Answer 3

Make a plan for yourself and let everyone know this is how you will be living your life. Your husband may surprise you with his support. He probably is in a rut himself and will be inspired by the "new" you.

Answer 4

I'm in a rut too. I haven't left my house to go out more than twice in months. I just feel worthless at the moment, I've failed my GCSE's so I've f*cked my life up.

Answer 5

its sounds to me as if you and your husband aren't communicating well! Tell him how you feel, ask him if he would be more willing to take on more work in your house as you honestly feel as thou you can't cope! Also ask him if he would possibly change his working hours once a week or even overnight so he is able to look after the children and you can get time for yourself you deserve it! As for your mum could you not adopt a home help service or something along those lines where there would be someone else responsible your not taking all your strain be yourself! Are you an only child? If not could another sibling not also help out with you or mother. Or if there is no other option could she not come and live with you and your husband? If you were to nip out to the shop she would be there to supervise the children too so even the simplest tasks would be easier to carry out!Hope this helps you and gives you some ideas at least!