Amazing dreams, what do they mean???

Question

I've had five dreams about my crush who I haven't seen for a year. I have really liked him for three years. The first two dreams were about me trying to get his attention and kind of showing off a little, but he never glanced at me. In the third dream, we were in a cabin with my twin cousins, and he was flirting with one of them. I was going crazy, trying to get him to just LOOK at me, but he wouldn't. The last two dreams take a wild turn, though. The fourth one took place in a giant room. All along the walls were chessboards, and people stood in lines to play. Who they were playing with would be a surprise. I went into the room and saw my crush. My heart beating wildly, I sat at the chessboard and he smiled at me. We started playing when I reached out for one of the chess pieces, but then he took my hand and told me he loved me. I just stared at him. Then it ended. The fifth dream was at an amusement park still under construction. To be continued...

Answer 1

I think it means you know that it is over but you still want that feeling that you had with your ex (that heart skipping, palm sweaty feeling) I think you are trying to figure out if you did the right thing in letting him go.  But in your dream you should turn him into someone else and let go for new love.  At least they are good dreams right?

Answer 2

You can not justify your obsession with him and your pumping the possibilities for every possible future. You are asking, What's my role with him, my position, my duty, my purpose

'C. Of Love To Men

Love is a matter of feeling, not of will or volition, and I cannot love because I will to do so, still less because I ought (I cannot be necessitated to love); hence there is no such thing as a duty to love. Benevolence, however (amor benevolentiae), as a mode of action, may be subject to a law of duty. Disinterested benevolence is often called (though very improperly) love; even where the happiness of the other is not concerned, but the complete and free surrender of all one’s own ends to the ends of another (even a superhuman) being, love is spoken of as being also our duty. But all duty is necessitation or constraint, although it may be self-constraint according to a law. But what is done from constraint is not done from love. It is a duty to do good to other men according to our power, whether we love them or not, and this duty loses nothing of its weight, although we must make the sad remark that our species, alas! is not such as to be found particularly worthy of love when we know it more closely. Hatred of men, however, is always hateful: even though without any active hostility it consists only in complete aversion from mankind (the solitary misanthropy). For benevolence still remains a duty even towards the man-hater, whom one cannot love, but to whom we can show kindness. To hate vice in men is neither duty nor against duty, but a mere feeling of horror of vice, the will having no influence on the feeling nor the feeling on the will. Beneficence is a duty. He who often practises this, and sees his beneficent purpose succeed, comes at last really to love him whom he has benefited. When, therefore, it is said: “Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself,” this does not mean, “Thou shalt first of all love, and by means of this love (in the next place) do him good”; but: “Do good to thy neighbour, and this beneficence will produce in thee the love of men (as a settled habit of inclination to beneficence).” The love of complacency (amor complacentiae,) would therefore alone be direct. This is a pleasure immediately connected with the idea of the existence of an object, and to have a duty to this, that is, to be necessitated to find pleasure in a thing, is a contradiction.'

http://www.marxists.org/reference/subjec...

Immanuel Kant (1780)

The Metaphysical Elements of Ethics

http://webspace.ship.edu/cgboer/erikson....

ERIK ERIKSON

1902 - 1994 Ego development and lifes experiences.

V (12-18 or so) --

adolescence ego-identity vs role-confusion peer groups, role models to be oneself, to share oneself fidelity, loyalty fanaticism -- repudiation

VI (the 20’s) --

young adult intimacy vs isolation partners, friends to lose and find oneself in a

another love promiscuity -- exclusivity

Answer 3

This is just probably a mix up of your emotions about him.  the chessboards were just symbolic of the ways in the past you imagined he would   possibly approach you and the reactions and responses you would give him.  The unfinished amusement park was probably the time is not right for you and he to get together. The roller coaster - your emotions about him.

Answer 4

hot dream,but a year? you absolute like him and you want him.but maybe you can't get over the fact that you can't see him anymore.