An important question about a woman's touch?

Question

I asked a question

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080819181638AA3oUC5

regarding a woman holding a man.

And this answer spooked me

"Sure I do! My man likes to lie with his head on my lap while I stroke his hair. When I hold my man it is a bit different than when he holds me. His tends to be more protective while my embrace tends to be more for comforting. I don't know how to exactly explain the difference its just there."

Shouldn't a woman's touch be just as protective? I believe a man should feel utterly safe, secure, protected , like no wrong can come to him.

Do some women make their man feel that way? I think a woman's touch might be more protective than a man's. A woman's touch is often tighter because she can do so without hurting him. A woman's touch reminds him of the protective mother. A woman's embrace is like nourishment.

So are there women who have a protective touch? Which gender's touch is more protective? Or does it depend?

I mean the idea that men are the protectors doesn't apply in most or at least many relationships. A REAL COUPLES PROTECTS EACH OTHER RIGHT?

Answer 1

I can touch you in many different ways and we may never agree if it were for protection or not. Why? Because the touch means different things to different people. I can get a hug from one man and feel secure, then from another guy and it feels totally insecure...not-with-standing that I had dated the two guys at two different times. The point is this. How do you feel when you are held by women. I don't try to have a so called protective touch when I hold my man. If he feels that way...good. I won't complain. I like a strong hold on me by my man and I do feel protected by him....my present man. Does he 'try to project" that in holding me. He said NO, he was just holding me.  

Answer 2

To answer this question - at different times the way I touch my husband varies. Sometimes its sexual, others its sensual, at yet others its comforting, protective, calming, soothing, playful, etc.

In answer to the original question. Sometimes its hard for a woman to touch her man in a non-sexual way if she feels he's going to mis-interpuret her intent and go to sexual straight away.

Answer 3

My husband hold each other (he holds me more), and it can be for various reasons.  Comfort, is probably the top of the list for both of us.

If one of us is in need of comfort, they know they can get some cuddling, and conversation.

Protection is something we offer each other always.  We are always save with each other.  

Answer 4

I think you are thinking waaay too deeply into this. This is a classic case of over-analyzing your thoughts.

Answer 5

i agree with both answers, i feel like a man touch is more protective in a macho way , and a woman's touch is protective in a more nurturing way...and more comforting because women emanate love from their toes to their finger tips.....i think men can feel that.

Answer 6

You are a victim of your own mind's ability to over think and over analyze the mundane.

Answer 7

I don't think most men are looking for a mother and most women do not want to be a mother to their husbands either. We are mothers to our children, and partners to our husbands. I hold my husband in an adoring and loving way (the same way he holds me). I don't need my husband to protect me from anything and he doesn't need me to protect him from anything either....we are both very capable adults.