An intrusive father?

Question

i feel horrible for even openly admitting this but i'm starting to resent my dad....i'm 21 and been living with him for almost a year now...before we lived together, i was such a daddy's girl, called him always and was so affectionate with him....now things have changed, he annoys me to no end, he's constantly knocking on my bedroom door, what are you doing?, can i hangout in your room?, a million annnoyinggg questions, and if i'm on the phone thats when he interupts me the most, like he does it on purpose, and i know he's trying to communicate with me but its so intrusive/invasive i'm not a child anymore, its just awkward sometimes...i cant afford to live on my own and my mom lives far away so i wouldn't want to leave my life here.....what should i do about this???

Answer 1

schedule a date with him and get a job!

if you let him know you have special time with him every week (grab a coffee, dinner out, tv time, dave & busters) he will feel accepted and is erfect timing to talk about what he wants

getting a job is the way for you to stay away from him with a valid excuse :]

Answer 2

I think the best way is just to have dinner one night and talk it over.  Give him some guide lines and not expect him to read your thoughts.  We as parents love our children and even though they are grown we still want to be next to them and close.  Just give him some guide lines so he knows what bugs you and be sure to give him some time to spend with you so he won't always be hanging around your door.  I wish I still could talk to my dad. *sigh*

Answer 3

You need to be patient with him.  You can also talk to him about your privacy.  Don't hate him, he just wants you in his life and wants to spend time with you.  Think of it like having a big fan.  As a father, he also feels the need to protect you...he wants to know what's going on so he knows you are not getting yourself in trouble.  This may seem intrusive, but in 10 years you will thank God for such love and guidance.