An obnoxious friend, what should I do?

Question

I had a friend, Molly Corney, our parents' farms are adjacent, and we are almost of the same age, but I am an only child, and she has a bunch of brothers and sisters. We used to be very close, and always brought dairy products to the market together. Then she went north to visit some relatives, and came back engaged to a middle-aged shop owner, as old as her own father! It changed her so. She became loud, laughing, and boisterous. I used to think that she was in love with a man in the navy, practically a hero, Charley Kinraid, and the shop-owner seemed to me such a come-down. And she was so full of it. Mother said that she was like a rooster on a dunghill, crowing: "I've caught a husband! I've caught a husband!" and that she'd marry anybody with a good income. She had been so self-absorbed in her wedding preparations, and so selfish, it was a relief when she went away. Then she came back and asked me to a party at her parents'. I went there, and helped with the preparations. Molly was even worse: said that we all were behindhand, that ours was an out-of-the-way place, found out who gave me a new headband and teased me about it, and told her husband, and they whispered and stared at me, and laughted all the evening. I do not want to have her as a friend anymore, but don't want to quarrel with her because her family is fine and is our neighbours. What should I do?

Answer 1

Just don't even make an effort to be her friend.  If she wants to talk to you, then fine.  Talk to her, just don't run after her and act like you're desperate for her to be your friend.  

Answer 2

If your good at acting, try to act like it doesn't bother you and don't socialize with her and focus on having another friend.

Otherwise you can tlak to her about it.  

Answer 3

I feel with you. Losing friends, no matter for what reasons, is a tough experience.

When I grew up I experienced some very similar stories. I reacted instinctively and from my today sight my advice would be not to do anything. Let her have her strange behavior and try to avoid her.

It will only look like the two of you simply grew apart: different interests, different environments.

I for myself was always sure, one or two of my childhood friends will simply call one fine day and say: I am sorry - want to meet me?

Chin up and remember you did nothing mean so try to think of nice things and don't be too sad about the whole topic.

Answer 4

I would phase her out. Ignore her phone calls and avoid her at all costs. She sounds like a douche, I would totally be annoyed if she pulled that s**t with me.