An over protective mom. How can I help her get over her fears?

Question

I'm a 17yo senior and I cant go anywhere without her fears of what <i>might</i> happen get in the way and its really holding me back. I cant have any friends lol. Its really frustrating...any suggestions!?

Answer 1

Worrying is what parents do best.  Without more information, it&#039;s hard to say whether your mom is being overprotective or just realistic. But taking your word for it, I think that at your age, you need some independence.  You could gently and respectfully remind her that you will be 18 soon and graduating from high school.  Regardless of what you do after that (college, job, etc.), you&#039;ll have your own responsibilities and you will be away from home more. Next time you go out, let her know where you&#039;re going and whom you&#039;ll be with - and be truthful. Maybe you could offer to stay in touch with her by phone the first few times you go out.  Just send a quick text message every hour or so letting her know you&#039;re OK   Once she sees that you can go out and come back without bad things happening, she may relax more.  

Answer 2

Communicate with your mother openly. Tell her how you feel...and tell her that you understand how she feels. Ask her if you have given her any reasons to doubt you. If she says yes, discuss them with her. Also, tell her that you would like her to give you the opportunity to be trusted by her...start taking baby steps...she will loosen the grip.

Answer 3

you can&#039;t. it&#039;s called motherly love.  she will always worry.  tell her you need friendships so that you know how to pick good quality friends.  if you don&#039;t try, you may pick a loser wife/husband.  tell her &#039;sooz&#039; says there&#039;s nothing worse the a loser daughter-in-law/son-in-law.  i&#039;ve got one of each.  you MUST start spreading your wings.  she&#039;ll be glad in the long-run.  i promise.  she did a good job so far, right?

Answer 4

Ugh, omg my boyfriends mom is the same exact way. My bf can&#039;t do anything without her knowing every single last detail. It&#039;s so frustrating cause I can&#039;t ever see him. It&#039;s really a problem because he&#039;s shy and won&#039;t talk to her. And like I&#039;m going to talk to her, she already hates me! I guess the best thing to do is sit down with her and explain that your a year away from being a legal adult and you deserve to have control over your own life. Mothers have this thing for their sons and they all despise letting go. Just convince her that it&#039;s ok to let go, she needs to stop putting off the inevitable.