Anger management issues...whats your take?

Question

So my girlfriend has a severe anger problem.

I'd call it year around PMS.

I'll give you the smallest thing that I've seen set her off.

She misplaced her keys, and stomps around in a fury trying to find them. She cusses the entire time, and when I'm not trying to help with the same enthusiasm as her, I get cussed out for not helping.

She's completely fine when nothings going "wrong"

but when it does you better move.

What would you do if someone you were with had an anger issue? Is there anything you CAN do?

Answer 1

Well I can honestly say that I am on both sides of the coin on this one.    I have had anger problems but I am learning to rule my anger and not let my anger rule me.  It's important to get a handle on anger because other wise it will negatively affect your whole life. In my situation, I used to blow up because I let anger build up instead of just saying something when I am initially upset.  In the case of your girlfriend, why don't you let her know that you think that she has an anger management problem and that she gets too easily irritated and that you don't feel comfortable around her when she does that.  Tell her that it isn't good for her to get so angry and that she needs to practice handling stressful situations in a more constructive way.  You may also want to observe the way her parents and other family members react to situations and maybe even the people she hangs out with.  I suggest this because sometimes the way a person expresses anger is a learned behavior which comes from how they saw their parents and other family members react when angry.