Anger management problems ? ?

Question

I don't want to visit a psychiatrist and take medicines for this. I've recently found myself in an awkward situation in my life where I've been labeled by some girl with negative attributes. Of course, for sure, I don't have them. She did this to make herself look justified for treating me like a doormat. The question is, that event has been gone 3 months, and I don't want to talk to her.

She recently found another excuse to talk to me and as usual, tried to intimidate me by calling me names. I've got no witnesses. I've been ignoring all the rumors and the frowns at me for 3 months. She was the one who first started talking to me with insults to find out a way to turn me down. When I understood I deserved better, I wanted to move on and stop talking to her. Then, she started telling her friends how basically she always has been the victim in heated conversations and how she misses me. My father's sick. I've got just 8 months left before I leave college and head to my work-life. I've got to concentrate and study hard to survive but when I think that I'm not doing anything to stop something wrong, and that if I get into an argument with her in front of everyone, she might try to use it against me again, i lose control. I don't break things, but when the silent outburst is over, I end up hyperventilating, because I imagine beating her up till I get this in her head that the only thing I ever asked from her was respect.

Answer 1

This girl is a bully.  You know you are above all that. You could just walk away but it seems you are hung up on the need to do "something " about a wrong thing.

Okay here is what you do. The next time she walks up to you start laughing. Others will see you laughing and think hummm wonder what she said to make her laugh. Always do the unexpected. W/o a reaction she has lost her power to terrorize you.  She will have lost face and credibility with the other kids who see you laughing.

Just loosen up and remember that all wrongs cannot be fixed. The wise know when that is .

Answer 2

why dont you tell her what you just told everyone else! all you want is repect! and if she cant deal with that then shes just not worth bothering over in my opinion shell soon get bored! i wouldnt let it get you down just keep studying! make sure you do well!

Answer 3

Well, really, you don't have anger management issues. Sure, it isn't good to bottle up your feelings, but thats somewhat better then beating her, right? If you just tell her that she's simply not mature enough to know when to just give it a rest, maybe she'll leave you alon. I was in a same type of situation.but maybe more gruesome. even if you don't want to talk to her, its worth a shot. Or you could just ignore her, which might work, but if she has nothing better to do, thats pathetic.

Answer 4

Cut her out of your life. Who cares what her excuse is to talk to you, just don't. Ignore her, move on. You did good trying to not talk to her. You really just can't, avoid her. If you don't talk/see her then you can't get in a fight with her.

Hope this helps

Answer 5

best advice i could give you is distance yourself from her and her friends. act as if you dont even know them and when they speak to you just tell them you have something you need to be doing, and leave as soon as possible. another peice of info would be, try not to harp on the situation at hand, it will do nothing but cause more and more stress in your life. hope ive helped...i recently went thourgh a similar situation and this seemed to help me.

Answer 6

Okay, no meds, but a supplement called SAM-e will help you keep your cool.  They are at Walgreen's, and they are natural occurring chemical in our brains when we are at ease, and not battling inner thoughts to not strangle someone (little joke).  Forget the girl, avoid her, and forget what people say, you'll never see them again, and besides if they were worth while individuals, they'd know better than to believe a hen cackling like a baby at the playground.

Answer 7

Wow, I feel really bad for you. You deserve so much better and anyone who treats you like c**p doesn't deserve to even be your friend. Maybe you should see a therapist who will be able to listen to your problems.  

Answer 8

Take a deep breath, go get some  boxing gloves and beat the c**p out of a bag or punchman.  Works for me, and once the aggression is out of your system you can tackle the actual problem and figure out the best way to deal with it.  The truth will out though don't worry.. maybe it;s best just to continue ignoring here? She's obviously got serious issues!  

Answer 9

Ignore her. If she comes up to you again, calmly tell her, "I have told you I no longer wish to have anything to do with you," and walk away. No matter what she says or does, just walk away. If she does it in front of her friends I would add, "I no longer wish to have anything to do with you or your lies."

You have no reason to talk to these people, so don't. As you said, your life will start in 8 more months. Who cares what these people think anyway? If you are calm about it, she'll eventually find someone else to try to treat bad.

If you feel really angry, find a way to channel that energy. Anger in itself is not a bad thing - you just need to find a positvie way to use it. Any exercise will really help - running, boxing, anything. Just go do something. That's like double revenge - not falling for her games, and getting in great shape (and looking hot for a real woman) while you're doing it.

Answer 10

yeah that girl is a betch, makes me feel like i wanna slap her. She should just leave you alone. Just ignor her as much as you can, don't even talk to her or answer her. Sooner or later she will feel that she isn't effecting you anymore and will stop hopefully.

Good luck.