Anger management problems.

Question

Alright,so i have a bit of an anger/violence issue. When i get angry, I pick up whatever is around me and just throw it up against the wall and stuff. And I just hit whatever.

I just can't help myself and I don't know why. Is there someway that I can calm myself down before getting violent?

Answer 1

I would nail everything in that is around you that way it'd be really difficult to pick something up and throw it.  that'd be my solution to your problem.

Answer 2

ok i'm your age and i have the same problem butt one of my friends told me before you throw watever or hit watever stop and cout to 4 but it's hard to stop so just really really try to rember

Answer 3

First of all, you must decide that you can help yourself stop doing this. If you want to control your behavior bad enough you can do it. People usually continue to do things they know are wrong because of a pay off they get for doing it. When the pay off is better for quitting than the pay off for doing it, then we usually change. What is the pay off for throwing things? Does it get you attention that you need? Does it make you feel that others believe you are serious if you are threatening? I think it is great that you want to change for the better. If you feel that people are not listening to you, read up on communication, then try out the skill when you are not upset. Then you will remember it when you do get upset. Also, the first time is the hardest but when you accomplish self control each time it is easier to do the thing you are trying to do. You got the power! Go for it!

Answer 4

get a stress ball!

they really work.

Answer 5

I once took a 4x4 and a hammer ... use your imagination =|

when i was done, it was a 4mm by 4mm

                       i felt better

Answer 6

Always think about the fact that you don't want to be so angry before it even starts to prevent it.

Answer 7

Someone in my family has an anger management issue.  She is obsessive in getting everything her way and her schedule has to be exactly the way she sets it.  Even if it rains, or a road is blocked, and her schedule is delayed, which doesn't matter because it's not anything important, she'll scream and yell.  Also, she'll get violent and picks up scissors, knives, and threatens to throw them.  She will throw other  objects like chairs, tissue boxes, etc.  And her problem is severe because it happens several times a day.  The only way is wait for her to calm down.

the solution is that the individual has to vow to change.  The individual has to think to him/herself: why am I so angry?  What is the point of my getting angry?  No one's going to care, and getting angry is not healthy for you.  live longer, be happier.