Anniversary/Birthday Invite wording problem?

Question

At the end of my aunts invitation she'd like to mention that she wants a "card shower". That means that they don't want gifts,exactly, but cards (with or without money) are acceptable. Is this proper wording??or should it say something else??

Answer 1

inappropriate to tell people to give you cards/money/gifts....leave it off of the invite totally....people will do what they want....rudeness!

Answer 2

You might want to say, this is a card giving occasion or cards are appreciated. But some people may be confused with just "card shower". Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Maybe write something like:

"In lieu of gifts, [so-and-so] would appreciate/prefer a card shower" (or "....appreciate/prefer cards expressing good wishes")

Answer 4

I have never heard of this, so I Googled it.  Most of the wording of what I found went something like this:

"In honor of ___________ the family is giving a card shower.  Cards of congratulations/ well wishes, (whatever)may be brought with you to the party or you can mail them to: address."  

This way, you aren't specifically stating no gifts, but leaving it open to interpretation.   Some people will bring gifts no matter what you write.  Some will put a gift card or money into the card and keeping it simple will let people choose what they are comfortable with.  Some may not have the extra money right now for gifts, so simply stating cards will help with that.

Hope this helps!

Answer 5

Gifts optional or Cards welcome (gifts optional). hmmm good luck

Answer 6

I completely agree with the answers above mine. So I'll just reiterate that "card shower" alone is ambiguous. (My first impression was to relate it to a baby shower.)