Annoying boy at church?

Question

Hi! This really annoying 8 yr. old boy at church I want to smack! When his little sister wants to color while he is he gets all angry and whines and hits her. When he wants juice he whines and says he wants it. Then he starts to yell. Once he hit his little sisters head on the concrete floor of the church. Thank goodness it has carpet!

How can I stop this?

I don't want to talk to his dad because all those are genes! His dad was the same when little!

THANKS VERY MUCH!

Answer 1

Im sorry, but you are a very ignorant person. First you hate on the little kids for BEING CHILDREN, no less IN CHURCH..then you don't even know the father and accuse him of being the same.

You should try to be less judgmental, and maybe just understand that they are kids, and MAYBE your god has placed this situation in front of you to try and teach you some patience.. because clearly, you lack it.

Answer 2

Personally it sounds like this little boy is stressed over the home situation and may be taking his frustration out in inappropriate ways because he doesn't know how to express it otherwise. There is probably more to this than what you are seeing in small glimpses and you can't blame "genes" for bad behavior, it is more likely inappropriate parenting that causes that.   Instead of saying you "hate this kid" or calling him names you could try some compassion for what he may be feeling. It sounds like a broken home situation with some bad situations and circumstances.

It could be too that Dad is so overwhelmed with work and keeping up with two small children that he feels trapped and inadequate at times anyway with the situation. Maybe offer to help himt out by watching the kids for him occassionally or even taking the kids to the library or park one day a week to help him out and give him a break a couple hours a week.  He may just be grateful for your help.  If you don't feel comfortable doing that maybe talk to the pastor of your church to see what can be done to help this family and see what you can do to meet some need they have- even if it's just cooking a meal or helping the kids learn to read better or do math, even just someone to bake them cookies once a week.

Answer 3

You have no right to discipline anyone else's child no matter WHERE they are and since you won't speak to his father "your son seems to be a little rough with is sister" you've got nothing.  Leave it alone, these are not YOUR children.

Answer 4

alright if his dad does nothing just try to intervene because this could get really serius and bad so just talk to his dad because he probably is not proud of his younger days so ya just rty to make him stop

Answer 5

why not just stay out of it its not your business weather or not the dad disiplins him or not and if you hit him you'll go to jail so stay out of it!

Answer 6

Sounds like you ask for advice then decline solid advice that might be the least bit inconvenient for you (talking to the Dad).

If you really think you cannot talk to your friend...

Get the pastor to talk to the Dad. State you are concerned and that the boy disrupts the church and if the Dad needs help the church should reach out.

Otherwise stay out of it.

Answer 7

So did you listen to the sermon at church about not judging others.  Maybe you should mind your own business and let his dad parent him.  As much as it may bother you it is not your problem.

Answer 8

oh my, if you don't want to talk to his dad, perhaps talk to his mum, or even tell him it's not appropriate to smash his sibling's head into the ground...i don't know, but i would definatly talk to his parent (s)

Answer 9

Is this in the Sunday School class? Tell the parents that he is not allowed anymore because of his behavior. Talk to the pastor and let them deal with it. They are trained to counsel people so maybe he can talk to the parents and the child.

Answer 10

Is there a mom? Is she wacky too?  Sorry to say but there is nothing you can do.  Just move to another pew and keep your cool.  Pretty soon the little girl will start hitting him back and that should take care of it.  That's what happened to my bratty brother! LOL

Answer 11

do not judge what you dont know.

how do you know he is not developmentally delayed?

Answer 12

I had the same problem a few years ago. There was a really mean bully in my sunday school class. He broke my friend's wrist in the parking lot, and never got yelled at. I avoided him, and luckily he left our church. You just have to live with it.

Answer 13

That kid seriously needs discipline. I would advise the father to do something before it gets out of hand. Try helping him. Maybe he has trouble or maybe theres just something preventing him from doing this action.

Answer 14

"I don't want to talk to his dad because all those are genes! His dad was the same when little!"

I have no idea where you learned that. Whoever told you that needs to stop trying to fool you. Probably some creationist somewhere.

As for church... suppressing everyone is the best idea. It's practically mandatory if you go to church, anyway. Why don't you want to beat him? Your bible even says "spare the rod, spoil the child".

/sarcasm