Annoying girlfriend, im about to lose it.?

Question

i've been with my girlfriend for 4 years now, the first 3 years were fine, but ever since she started to say she wanted kids, and i said im not intrested in kids at all, she has really been bugging me and she has changed, i already have 2 kids from another girl, but couldnt handle it so i took off and abandoned them, (she also keeps bring that part of my life up) but the past is the past, im looking at the future here, all the time round the house she starts up arguements for nothing, i've tried talking to her about it, she just says everything fine, im being paranoid, but i know something is wrong, and she keeps on bringing up the 2 kids i havent seen or heard from (and dont wish to) in over 5 years, i really do feel like just grabbing the keys to my work rig, and just taking off for good, and ill proberly get the chance tomorrow morning, but i just want to know why shes being so annoying, what do i do?

Answer 1

Don't you dare have anymore kids!!!your girlfriend is out of her mind you have to be sensible here. put more energy into working so you can pay some money towards your existing children.

Answer 2

you cant blame her in a way,, she is still a woman and thats part of our dreams... but if one gonna look it in other way she should not ask you to give her kids, why, because ur both irresponsible, you for abandoning your responsibilities with your children, and her for putting your life in a more miserable way, she gave you false reassurance of creating a new family but instead she keeps on mentioning your past. thats what you call karma...

Answer 3

whoah ok u abandoned ur kids thats harsh

Answer 4

I guess yuo could find someone else who doesn't want kids either...

Tell her you have a genetic problem, like the child with have a disease for sure.

that will otta' scare her about having kids.

Answer 5

In that case grab the keys to your work rig a p*ss off then. She will be better off without an a*****e like you in her life.

Running away from your responsibilities has served you OK so far.

Answer 6

My Dear friend,

As a matter of fact, the girl you love, you should marry her. Motherhood is the right of a woman and she should not be deprived of her right. Getting involved in love, producing children and abondoning them is a serious sin in the eyes of God. In the past, you had children from a girl and abondoned them. That was a wrong thing. However, done cannot be undone. Forget about the past, but now since you are in relationship of another girl, if she wants children from you. Fulfill her need after getting her married. This would be righteous step on your part and your life woul go ahead with love and affection. God bless you with proper understanding.

Answer 7

Do your girlfriend a favor and break up with,let her find a man who will give her children and not have commitment problems. You are wasting this girls time.

To me you are a coward not a real man...how dare you treat women like this...it takes two to have kids so don't just blame it on your ex!!!!! keep your p***s in your pants! I think from the start of this relationship you should have told your girlfriend you do not want kids and never will have one....

just go and get a vasectomy and see a therapist ASAP!!!!!

Answer 8

Okay- Lets be reasonable here! You are also acting crazy! You abandoned your kids. If anything, you should have at least kept in contact with them, even on special occasions. You are the one that has an issue, not your girlfriend. You seem to always want ot run and hide adn not confront things, it sounds like. Well you can not always run, you have to grow up and face reality sometime, or be alone. You obviously then need someone who does not wish to have children. Also you say you have been with your girlfriend for 4 years now, that is good. She obviously wants to enhance and up the relationship to the next level. She and you both actually need to sit down and TALK rationally about your relationship, and what you both want and expect out of it, and where you think you both should be and how to get there. I would suggest you  actually really make her feel like yu are listening to her, this may help. As she may feel like you never do, this could be why you both argue so much on this and sh e may feel like you really are not hearing her. Females will do this. I am not siding with either of you, but IF 4 years into a relationship!? You both should have at the beginning of your realationship, talked about what you wanted out of it, and discussed things further. This could have stopped this situation. Maybe you are not right for each other then! It is sad to say that, (after spending time in a relationship), to find that you are not compatible. But running away, just beacause you can, is not an answer! It is not fair to her. remember it is not all about you either!  You need a little growing up! Sounds like you really do not care much for her, if this is how you act and are going to act toward her. My opinion, you both need to go your own ways and find a new partner.  Good Luck!

Answer 9

i actually hate u!!! my dad walked out on me an u have no idea how it changes things, i always wonder why he doesn't talk to me not even on my birthday, i dont get a phone call or even a card, ur a b*****d!

Answer 10

That's really stupid of her to want kids with you when she knows you left the last two. Point that out if you hadn't already. She's gotta be really thick to think that. I think you should threaten that you're going to leave if she doesn't cut it out, and if she still doesn't take the hint and is still driving you crazy, leave if you no longer wanna be there. It wouldn't be like you didn't warn her, and her own fault if she brought it upon herself.......

Answer 11

How can you abandon your own children?? That's disgusting. They are a part of your life and they need you whether you like it or not....

I think she's disappointed at you and she should be ashamed of you cutting YOUR OWN KIDS out of your life. And wants you to just make up for doing such a horrible thing..but you must be the stubborn type lol who likes to just run away rather than sort the probelm out..

I think she really wants you to do the good thing and be in contact with your kids..

That's nasty.

You're a disgrace..

Answer 12

You had kids - they aint something you can wash your hands of! You need to support them finacially and mentally they need a father figure!

As for her you should leave her! It's not right to keep bringing it up, and started arguements over the smallest thing is d**n petty!

But for gods sake keep in contact with your kids!

Answer 13

u what???? i think she should leave u, and she should definitely not have kids with u coz id feel sorry for the kids, they will have u as a father, uve failed as a dad, u 2 kids r really gona hate u when they grow up.

as a woman, i can understand ur gf wanting to have kids, thats most womens dream to become a mother, i always wanted that, and i have a beautiful 9 month old baby.

bringing up kids is a tough job and there have to be alot of sacrifices made, and looks like to me that ur just running away from those responsibilties,

do ur gf a favour, and just run away, and dont look back coz she deserves alot better than u.

i cant believe u had the guts to write all this about ur kids on yahoo... what do think people here would do... they wouldnt give u any sympathy.

Answer 14

may be same thing happened to her when she was young may be Daddy  abandoned her so her past could be huntin her now so she mad @ u for abandonin your kids   so i suggest u tell how she pisses u and if she still acts the same get your self another girl afetr all she deserves a man who doesn't run away from reality and his responsibility

Answer 15

What's her number?

Answer 16

it's just the way she is. you sound like you don't like her, so why are you with her?

Answer 17

The fact that you're "just not interested in kids" doesn't change the fact that you've got 2 AND the fact that you should be looking after them..........my partner has two with someone else also but he takes care of them and i help him!! My god men like you make me physically sick..............