Annoying mothers and mid-life crisis's

Question

I don't know what to do..I feel like my mum is stealing my identity! Yes, I know mum's like to have fun too and yeah great, but she's stealing my makeup, my perfume, my clothes, copies my music and wants to go clubbing all night. She was the exact opposite to this a year ago when she was with my dad. It's really annoying me now and I feel like I'm being treated like the mother figure

Anybody suffered the same thing?

Answer 1

With you saying 'a year ago when she was with my dad' leads me to believe they are either divorced or she is widowed.  Either way, her behavior is understandable.  After all, she probably spent years with someone who was 'tying her down' (in her mind) and now that she is not in that situation anymore she is feeling free and wants to show it.

It's gonna be annoying, but just know that in time, this will pass.  Her age will catch up to her and she'll start cooling her jets.

For the time being I would suggest giving her 'tips'.  For example: Instead of letting her borrow your makeup, suggest you go shopping together to the makeup counter where someone can do her up and suggest colors that are right for her?  It's a fun mother-daughter day and it gives you an opportunity to allow your makeup to be YOURS.  Same with clothes.  On the same shopping day, say 'Oooh, that top would look hot on you!' (as you see a cute top appropriate for her).  The music is kinda neat.  Just copy it for her and let her realize that it's not her style.  She will, soon enough.  Especially if you pick out hard rock!

Just remember that when you hit a certain age all you want to do is go back.  Go back to a time when people found you funny, attractive and sometimes s**y.  Not to a time when your b***s hit your knees, your stomach looks perpetually pregnant and your butt went from 'good' big to 'fat' big.  It's no fun aging.  Especially for us women out there.  

One day, you'll wake up and say to yourself, 'Mom, I totally get it now'.  And you will.   :)

Answer 2

Ask your mom politely to please leave your stuff alone.  Tell her that your clothes doesn't do her figure justice and makes her look like she is trying to hard to be young.  Just be brutally honest with her.  Sounds like she needs a good shaking to bring her back to reality.  

Answer 3

Talk to her in a very kind tone and ask her to give you some privacy as your belongings are for your personal hygiene, style of dressing, and for your own appearance and personality.

You may also ask her if she likes a certain perfume, cloth, or makeup that you might want to buy her as a gift. Maybe, she'll appreciate it alot. :)

Hope this helps

Answer 4

Same here.

Except my mom has her own makeup..