Another baby or not?

Question

Me and my b/f have been together for 3 years and we have a 14 month old son. We are planning on getting married in December of this year. Well lately I've gotten a bad case of "the baby itch". I think now would be a good time for another (our last b/c we only want 2), but my b/f wants to wait a couple more years. I want my kids to be some what close in age. I work nights right now so that I can stay home with my son during the day but once he goes to school I plan on going back to school myself and really get my career started. If I wait 2 or so more years for another child that will start the clock all over for when I can go back to school. We are not rich but we can afford another child. We have insurance and we are getting married. I think he wants to wait for us to have more money coming in but we do fine right now. And I want to have my kids and raise them through their young years because once I have done that, I plan to start my career. What should I do? Any suggestions? I don't want to trick him and do it without him knowing b/c he will be very upset that i betrayed him. He will know it was on purpose b/c he knows I want another baby. Please help!

Answer 1

Just talk to him about it. If you can't come to a compromise you are going to have to wait until its right!  

Answer 2

Wait until you have your careers started. It will be much easier on you in the long run.  Having a kid is hard.  Having two is twice as hard.

Answer 3

It seems like you should have an in-depth talk with your fiance. Ask him why he doesn't want another baby right now. (You can see if it really is about the money or something else.) Then make sure you tell him about the reasons you want to have a baby. Be specific about having the two kids close in age, your work, etc. Hopefully this will help!

I agree with you about wanting the kids to be close in age. Plus, you'll be done faster! Good luck!

Answer 4

Didn't u just ask this question? Why is the need to ask again when you had plenty of answers?

Answer 5

I think you should wait for money although you can afford but im afraid you wont have enough to spend for both of you.