Another g*y question about if its ok to hit on another guy.?

Question

Ok. I am 19 years old and consider myself very attractive for my age. However since the age of 15 I have considered myself bisexual, because i was sexually attracted to men and women. Although I became bi at a young age I never was seen as a bi guy. I became very popular and was nominated as the highschool homecoming king and so on and soooooo forth. Anyways as hott as i may think myself I couldnt land a relationship with another guy because I wasnt seen as g*y material. I dont want to change myself to look g*y. I get enough girls, and im totally tired of them. I have been trying to get a guy but have been unsuccessful because the ones that came to me were either tooo weird and unattractive or were too old. Now i met a guy who lives couple doors down and is pretty cute. the only prblm is that he has a kid and a Girlfriend for about 5 yrs now. He doesnt expect to progress throughout his future, and I really feel bad. I have a slight crush on him, but i dont want to betray our newfound friendship. He comes over buzzed and i dont try to make any moves cause he doesnt seem the type but for some odd reason i feel i could OPEN NEW DOORs to him. ANd i would really like to DO THINGS W. him since he would practically be my 1st. Would it be ok to try and hit on him. Ive been dying for a male on male encounter for soo long. And i dont want INTERNET DAting. Although i understand he may have a kid, but he has admitted that he is fed up with his demanding girlfriend of 5yrs. and that life is the same ol routine. so is it worth it. im going to be moving away in a few more days, and i believe if i dont act now that i will be a long time before i get another chance like this. thx 2 all who give answers tht arent stereotypical and discriminatory.

Answer 1

I don't know. Does your "g*y-DAR" tell you he's g*y? I have been hit on 4 or 5 times by g**s but I'm completely heterosexual. I really didn't mind. Other men will beat the h**l out of you if you hit on them. Ironically, I think the ones who will beat you up are g*y themselves and don't want to face it. I would say to talk in generalities about gayness. If he is interested he will get the picture. However, he is probably not interested and therefore your friendship will end forever.

Since you're moving away just go for it. It probably won't succeed but if you don't try you will always wonder "what if?"

Answer 2

honestly i don't think it's okay to make a move on him.. just because you're looking for a male partner doesn't mean you have to have the first one you kinda have a crush on. i'm sure all guys are fed up with their girl being with them for so long but it doesn't necessarly mean he wants to end the relationship. also you aren't sure how he feels about the whole bi thing therefore acting on it might turn him away from you and then you will end up losing your friendship as well. maybe you should go out to a club or something and introduce yourself to new men. i know your probably ready for someone now but it takes time to find someone and the right one is out there for you. don't rush it. it'll happen when it's time. good luck!

Answer 3

You shouldn’t try to take advantage of him its wrong, even if he is tired of his girlfriend they are still together. Now if your willing to just tell him how you feel that is different as long as he is not drunk. As for meeting guys just get out more, I am 26 and I am still looking myself. It takes a while and as long as your turning down guys without getting to know them for being “to weird and unattractive or were too old” it will only take longer.

Answer 4

Interesting dilemma

I would suggest that you should NOT make a move on him, but you should make it clear to him that you are open to him making a move on you.  Let him do the work.  And if that fails, jump him.  If you're confident he's up for it, what's the worst that could happen?

Don't dismiss internet dating.  You wont be the only one in this situation and it's a great gateway to finding like minded people

Answer 5

well, if i were you i would not do it. Since this guy has a girlfriend of 5 years and a kid, i would just be his friend and that's it. I know that this guy may have some problems with his girlfriend, but you don't want to add to those problems. Just respect what they have. If they break up, then i would say go ahead and try it-just make sure he knows ahead of time that you are bi and know how he feels about the subject of homosexuality. And don't worry, i'm sure you will find a guy soon, or maybe when you move. Go to a g*y club sometime and meet people-at least there you won't have to worry if they are g*y or not.

Answer 6

You are 19 and consider your self attractive.   Talk about I love myself.

You are not seen as g*y material.

A sorry bud, but the reason guys don’t hit on you is you are not good enough.  g*y guys hit on anyone that’s worth the effort.    

Next is the neighbour.  You Yahoos Mr Wonderful can’t even pull a bloke that’s almost at his use by date.  I suspect the reason you cant get him is because he is not available.  

Look if your so desperate to get plugged by a bloke.  Have a shower and put on decent clean cloths. Go to a g*y bar and buy a drink.  If your as incredible good looking as you believe, you wont even finish it before some guy is checking you out.    And don’t forget to smile as that helps.

A question for you.

Why the h**l do you think we g**s even need you?  Why don’t you stick with the women and leave the hot guys for us.  

OK.

If your so sure of this guy.  Buy your self some very reveling pants. You know the ones that let it all show.    Go around and see him and if he is interested he wont be able to keep his eyes off your package.

Give it a tug or two and try to get it to respond. If your sitting there with a hard on and he does not move, its not happening.  

Where as if he looks once or twice then avoids that area you will know it not on.  

Answer 7

jump his bones... email me back the "blow by blow" details. this sounds like a short story i read in a copy of freshman magazine, have fun!

Answer 8

if you honestly think that he would be into the idea, then talk about it with him. you dont want to the person who broke up a 5 year relationship especially when there is a kid involved.  

Answer 9

Your last sentence troubles me.  "If I don't hit it off with him then I might as well stay straight..."  Hey dude.  You are only 19, and your life is just beginning.  If the neighbor wishes to remain in relationship with his girlfriend, or is just not bi, he's not going to go for you -- not because you aren't desirable, but just because he isn't into guys.

If he is not into guys, there are lots of guys who are!

It sounds to me like your heart is more with guys than girls...you've been "dying for" a guy, but are "totally tired" of girls.  Hmm.

Sounds like your heart and body really want a guy.

I don't get the fatalism of either your neighbor ("I'll never progress in life") or yourself ("I'll never get the guy I yearn for").

I disagree.  You can get what you want.  Picture it.  Pray for it.  Get out there and look for it.

I'm not so sure this guy is the right one, I dunno.  There is a child involved; that worries me: though he may be on the rocks with his girlfriend anyway.  But whether he is or is not the right one, oh my goodness, there are guys who would love to be with you, no doubt.

I'm just asking you not to limit your possibilities.

Answer 10

Well, I think you should find a nice moment and YOU SHOULD TRY.

but be careful. as you said he lives a couples doors down, it would not be nice to see him quite often if you didn't have a chance with him and you are both uncomfortable around each other.

I don't want to disappoint you, but although he is tired of his girlfriend, doesn't mean he wants to experience something with guys now.

but i agree that everybody is naturally bi (i feel bi too) and if you feel that, somehow, there's a connection, go for it!!

you may have a chance after all. and if you are cute, it's even easier!

The best luck for you!!

Answer 11

Do it.  You'll regret it more if don't do it.