We do not have joint accounts, don't share credit cards, don't share a car.We have a 2 yr old son But, This is a marriage that is hanging by a thin thread of survival. We got married in my 7 month of pregnancy and up until the baby was born and I stopped working fulltime, we split living expenses down the middle. No problems!
But, I expected that when we got married in March of 2006 that My husband should have opened a joint account with me and viewed us as "one" in all aspects especially finances. After we got married he told me he doesn't trust me with money and never opened a joint account. He is completely fine with me having a part time job/staying home with our son and just handing him over my checks to deposit into his account. I keep some money for myself into my account but the balance goes so low and never have enough to make a dent in my own savings. Basically he doesn't see "his money" as " our money" and doesn't want me spending what he earns. If i 'm ever low on my money I have to ask for his bank card , like I'm his kid. He says stuff like "what do you care, I pay for everything practically anyway" But that's not the point. I shouldn't have to ask my husband permission for money.
I have told him over and over again that I don't think that's right or fair. But now we are going to enroll our son in daycare and I'm getting an opportunity to afford half of everything again (living expenses) even though he will always make more then me. I feel like I have been fighting for him to see me as an equal in expenses all along and I was ignored b/c i wasn't bringing in enough money .....But now that I'm becoming "financially able" all of the sudden my husband denies all of this unfair treatment and is okay with joining accounts with me. Wow how convenient for him !!!!
I say s***w him !
I have fought too long over this issue and for him to turn around and deny it and have him think I'm not worthy enough to join accounts with him up until now that he sees i will be making more money is ridiculous. Can a marriage work like this financially 50/50 ???? How to go about it or any other tips ??????????
Tags: