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I asked an honest questios and asked for a good advise, but some punks, without even knowing me and the circumstances, start bad mouthing, and insulting, I do dnot understand why these drum heads do not think before they open their stinking mouths and put them into words, I believe they people shouldn't even be alowed to have an internet access. If you are cofused go ahead and ask more question, I know they can not, so shut up. My question is why you not think before you write?

Answer 1

This sounds like a rant. You know some people say what ever regaurdless of who it hurts. Don't let it bother you--easier said than done I know-- but honestly, you are on a public questions and answers page.

Answer 2

because ppl in front of the computer screen try to be someone their not in real life and they try to be punks.

cuss they dont know you and you dnt know them.

Answer 3

What was your question?  Oh I see it was about being in love with your friends wife.......ummmmm I can see why people would not be supportive Jay T.  That is just plain wrong in most peoples minds.

Answer 4

Because this forum is anonymous and therefore there are no consequences to being a rude punk.

Face it - 99% of everyone answering on Answers are only  experts in their own mind.  All need to remember that there are "real" people with real feelings at the other end of the email (or at least -- most emails!)

Answer 5

I'm not too sure what got said to you, but the reason people say rude things is just that - because it is the internet. A lot of people feel free to say hurtful things because the internet allows them to be anonymous. If it was real-life and the person was staring you in the face, believe me there wouldn't be so many rude things being said! You have to be careful of what you post online because anyone will say anything they want to say, without any fear of repercussions.. you just have to take it with a grain of salt, try to ignore people who hurt your feelings, and know that the people who say mean things are really pretty cowardly, because they don't have to show their face or say their name. Don't take anyone's comments to heart!

Answer 6

I think before I give an answer.I did not flame you.

Answer 7

Hi JT ... I'm sorry I didn't see your earlier question.  I would not have been rude or judgemental in my answer.  Here it is, in case you still need some guidance:

Sometimes you can't help how you feel.  Although I would not normally advocate lusting after another man's wife (especially not your friend's wife), I do understand that sometimes your heart does not listen to your head.

Statistically speaking, if you have an affair with your friend's wife, it is unlikely to end well.  Many people are going to end up being hurt -- and I think you know that. If your friend's wife is unhappy in her marriage, then she needs to either fix the problem or leave.  If you hook up after she has made the decision to leave, you and her stand a much better chance at a good relationship.  Unless your friend is an exceptionally forgiving person, he is likely not going to be your friend anymore regardless of if you have the affair before or after they are divorced.  

The grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence.  You see a perfect woman -- the reality is that she has the same crazy traits that all men hate (you just won't se them until you are in a relationship with her).  This woman may have legitimate reasons to want you instead of her husband, or she just might be bored with her marriage.  She might have the affair and realize the made a terrible mistake, and go back to her husband and confess, and he may forgive her (and then you would lose this woman AND your friend). Or you might end up being one of the small percentage of affairs that go on to get married and live happily ever after. No one here is going to be able to predict the future for you.

Good luck to you -- it's not an easy position to be in.  The best advice I can offer is to have an open and honest conversation with her.  You either need to have the affair and accept the consequences, or decide that it is never going to happen ever and find a way to move on.  Living in limbo between the 2 decisions will drive you insane.

Answer 8

It's actually impossible to write before you think because the brain sends the O.K for your hands to move...