Anti-feminist men, could you date a woman who is a feminist?

Question

I am not a feminist but I know a lot of women who are and they are kind, funny and attractive. Couldn't you look past her feminist beliefs if she is a nice, kind and beautiful woman? No matter how wonderful a woman may be, is being a feminist a make or break kind of deal?

Answer 1

No and never..

I'd rather cut off my genitalia than being in a relationship with a feminist..

Answer 2

I love dating feminists.  I love impassioned conversation.  These women are hardcore in their beliefs and make for interesting dinner entertainment.  However, I could only get into a serious relationship with a feminist who didn't allow her beliefs to turn to bitterness.  Yes I would expect her to cook and clean as I do.  Also, I would expect her to overlook my quirks (I always drive) as I would overlook hers.  All of my favorite women I've ever dated have been feminists.  However, a relationship is about compromise, if you won't compromise your doctrine for the health of the relationship, then it won't go far.  I didn't say we won't have fun, but your definitely not "the one."

Answer 3

don't anti-feminist men accuse feminists of all being lesbians anyway?

Answer 4

no I would not want to date a feminist because I dont want her to plan my destruction. Feminists are not nice because they want to get rid of men.

Answer 5

I wouldn't define myself as an anti-feminist, but rather, as one who questions the depth of 60's deconstructionist American identity politics.

To answer your question, here goes:

If she had other qualities that "fit the bill", sure.  If feminism defined her, or, if feminism was her central prism from which she viewed the world, no way, I would get bored really quickly, I'm sure.  

Answer 6

If she was as amazing as you described her, then maybe. I just really really dislike feminism.  

Answer 7

Yes

As long as she didn't believe in abortion

Answer 8

Apparently it is, not that any feminist of sound mind and body would want to date THESE guys.

If a guy identified as non-feminist, I would be able to overlook it as long as he didn't insist on completely dichotomized activity in the relationship (i.e. he pays, I clean, etc.) or say anything blatantly sexist. But if he was a full-fledged anti-feminist, then the chances of us being happy together are pretty much zero.

Answer 9

Where in the world did you meet a self described feminist who is "nice, kind, funny and attractive"? I would like to know!  All of the feminists that I met are simply bitter, selfish man-haters who want to use & abuse other people for their pleasure.

But that aside, how can you share your life with someone who has radically different ideas than you about work, money, how to share responsibilities, etc.? The potential conflicts are endless, and you can only compromise so much.

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...Christina Hoff Sommers, a conservative commentator, argues that feminism has a 'corrosive paradox', and that no group of women can wage war on men without at the same time denigrating the women who respect those men."

Wendy McElroy, a Fox News commentator, argues that some feminists "have redefined the view of the movement of the opposite s*x" as "a hot anger toward men seems to have turned into a cold hatred." She argues that men as a class are considered irreformable, all men are considered rapists, and marriage, rape and prostitution are seen as the same. She says "a new ideology has come to the forefront... radical or gender, feminism", one that has "joined hands with [the] political correctness movement that condemns the panorama of western civilization as sexist and racist: the product of 'dead white males.'" Conservative pundit Charlotte Hays argues "that the anti-male philosophy of radical feminism has filtered into the culture at large — is incontestable; indeed, this attitude has become so pervasive that we hardly notice it any longer."...

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I take it from the "thumbs down" that most people can't handle honest feedback about themselves....

Answer 10

I do, but she only says she is a feminist (she thinks its about equal rights LOL) , she hasn't completed a man hating course and doesn't blame the dreaded "patriarchy" on anything, she just gets on with it, the only twisted feminist she has heard of is greer.

Once I tried to get her to talk about "mens rights" and she just scoffed so I guess she is a feminist in some ways.

She doesn't call a plumber she calls a "little man", she is rude to people and makes employees cry sometimes. I don't let her into my life during the week because she just stresses me out with her dramas and at the weekend I punish her for all her wicked behaviour.

All in all its a pretty good arrangment.

Answer 11

I'm dating a non-feminist.  I'm not sure I'd call him an anti-feminist, but he definitely is not a feminist.  We treat each other with respect and we don't belittle the other persons ideals.  It helps that we laugh about it.

We race to the doors to get there first and hold it open for the other person.  (Winner gets to gloat a little)  We argue about who pays for dinner.  He usually wins that argument, but not for lack of trying on my part.  His argument is usually "I wanted to come out for dinner, I'll pay."  (Sorry, I can't fault that logic)  He offers to pay my airfare to visit, and I always decline and pay for it myself.  

Answer 12

i'd love to..

impregnating her would be even better...

enjoying a lifetime of marriage would her would be a dream come true.

Answer 13

LOL!!

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LOL!!!

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Sorry, I've calmed down now. I wouldn't date woman who thought she should have fewer rights than anyone else, but anyone who calls themselves a feminist is either very naive (a turn off) or has a victim mentality (also a turn off). I am attracted to confident emotionally intelligent women who are don't have major issues or baggage clouding their view of the world.

Answer 14

I'm not anti-feminist, but I wouldn't really want to date a woman that identified herself as a feminist, because in my experience they are usually aggressive about their beliefs, and focus on a lot of really negligible issues. At the same time, if a female in my union at work was getting paid less because of her gender I would be furious and I would vote to strike. So, in a way, perhaps I myself am a feminist.

Answer 15

I could if she respeced me as a man and that I have rights too.

I could date a feminist if she didn't take everything as an injustice for women. For example, if I clean sometimes, I expect her to clean sometimes too.  We both do the work. She shouldn't explode on me if I ask that she help out too if I've been doing things already.

Answer 16

I could date any kind, nice, beautiful woman, regardless of her politicl beleifs.  But a mysoginist, I doubt it.  He'd, by definition, probably would not engage her in any romantic conversation.

Answer 17

I have never seen or heard of a feminist who came close to being described as nice, kind, wonderful, and beautiful.

Check the NO box for me.

Answer 18

Definitely no.