Anxiety and depression?

Question

i am 15 years old, i suffer severely from anxiety and depression, i have been like this for the past 6 months, I'm in bed constantly with stomach pains and sickness. i cant go out anywhere or do anything, i cant even walk in my own garden.

i constantly feel like c**p, always in pain, always crying and always feeling like i want to die because the pain is so bad.

i have had enough and no one in the world seems to want to help me.

i dont know what to do anymore, all i do is keep getting the doctors out, but because of my age they wont treat my anxiety via medication.

please help me

does anyone have anything they can help me with

do u know anyways to stop anxiety or to calm me down?

have you experienced this yrself?

why do i have a bad stomach and feel sick all the time?

anyone with any help or advice pls reply, im in desperate need

all replys will be very much appreciated

thankyou xx

Answer 1

Generalised Anxiety Disorder:  There is a saying in the mental health field: "if the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail". So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage a large list of patients, with very limited time for each.

         With anxiolytics (anti-anxiety medication, such as Lexapro, or Paxil, which treat both anxiety and depression) you are only addressing the symptoms, and even then, often only temporarily, as your system becomes used to it, and you have to accept the risks of an increased suicide/homicide rate, aberrant behaviour, and side effects, such as possible sexual dysfunction, (common) or weight fluctuation. For those reasons, I recommend first trying the alternatives, (which only treat the symptoms) using supplements like inositol, and SAMe, or herbal remedies, such as valerian, or c(h)amomile, but the cause, as well using the EMDR variant, EFT, and relaxation techniques. The anxiolytics/antidepressants will still be there, should the alternatives prove insufficient for you, but give them a tryout period of several weeks, first.  

           See anxiety treatments, at  ezy build (below) in section 6. Set yourself a specific time period for worrying about anything, (say; around three quarters of an hour, possibly when you get home, or after your evening meal, but not too close to bedtime) after which, resolve firmly to refuse to even entertain the thought of worrying again on that day: realise and accept that to do otherwise would be counterproductive to your mental health, and enjoyment of life.    

                  You will have had your "worry time" for the day, and can just write down any more thoughts that come to mind, and say to yourself: "Well, I'll just have to worry about that tomorrow, won't I?".            It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately.          

                                                                                 When you notice  something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery.                                                                                                                                                                           Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large  "STOP!" sign, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic". In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version.                                                                                                                                           Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method.

         Practice one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Alternatively, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. There is also a version for use in public places, (if you like, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind). Section 53,  and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o at  http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris also refer: "Even though I sometimes suffer from anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself." Neurofeedback treatment for anxiety is increasingly becoming available.  Herbal remedies, such as valerian, (which is not recommended for use if depression is also present) passionflower, or St.John's wort, are often effective, but the idea is (as with anxiolytic medication) to use them like water wings, or training wheels on a bicycle, providing initial support, and giving time for other treatments, such as therapy, and relaxation techniques, to take effect.              

Depression is addressed in section 2: see page R first.

Answer 2

I'm in my early 30's and I've dealt with depression for a long time.  Also social anxiety, which may be different from the anxiety you are dealing with.  But things have gotten better for me.  I believe everyone can make things better for themselves.

Two things have really helped me:  diet and exercise.  I went through many medications and nothing helped... I only had improvements when I focused on diet and exercise.  

Changing your diet may help with your stomach problems.  I don't know what you eat but it's possible you could be lactose intolerant or have some kind of other intolerance or allergy that you're not aware of.   Has your doctor tried to look into this with you?

If it's caused by anxiety... when you are feeling anxious, take a walk.  If you live in a city maybe look for a nice spot you enjoy being in.  Probably someplace away from home but nearby.  Go there and just take a few moments, stop thinking.  Listen to the sounds, feel the wind on your face... experience the moment and don't think about your burdens.  Take deep breaths.  Slow things down.  

I don't have all the answers and solutions... I hope you find them and I hope you found some value in this.  Good luck.  

Answer 3

try getting a councelor, they can help u talk things out. you can still get certain medications for stuff like that at your age. he probably just thinks that its not bad enough for medication. if you feel other wise, find a new doctor :)

Answer 4

*crying*

look hon. i ******* feel you..

dead serious ur the same as me.

omg i dnt want u to go though wat i did...find a GP and a good Phycologist...(make sure someone goes wit u on ur first visit...so the phycologist dnt mess u around or play with ur mind)

if ur a catholic or not...make sure you pray.

as for the shtomach pains...i have been to four skools this year cuz i never turn up.

its the anxity.

if u get a GP he mite put u on anti-depressents (lyk they did 4 me)

it helps but be careful there are side affects...

*sigh*

plz look after urself.....i no how it feels...**** THE 10points....(gud luk.....ur in my prays...dnt keep me [e-mail])

Answer 5

HEY YOU:) go to this website.. anxietynomore.co.uk the person himself experience what you might experiencing right now..

Answer 6

get your self a bottle of calms this might ease the anxiety a bit.  i suffer from it every day for over the last ten years turned to drink and had a breakdown 2 years ago you need to get this sorted now !!!!!!!!! medication is not the answer you dont want be dopped up you have your full life a head of you (you just have to want it).

the stress and anxiety are causing your bad stomach you are always in pain as this is the way symptoms present them selfs when people are sufffering from depresstion antxiety ect.  phycological pain shows its self physically.

being in bed all the time is also causing the pain as your muscles are starting to seas up do to not getting used.

my advice to you is small steps you CAN change this around

1 get calms or any type of herbel medication

2 get out of bed every hour and pace the room if you cant face going out this will make you physically fell less pain

3 go back to your g.p he can and should be treating you with anti deppressents you will not get valium because of your age true!

4 ask your g.p. to get you in contact with an befriending service or a councilour

5 and remember YOU are the most important pearson in your life start loving yourself and fight this illness its hard but i believe you can bet this.

6 dont be fobed of with its a teenage crisis it is a bloody crisis because you are realy struggling

7 keep telling yourself that you are not going to be betten TODAY its not to say you wont have real c**p days but you do all the above you will get through this in time

good luck my friend

Answer 7

A lot of people do not know if they have depression. Depression has become one of the major psychology problems in the developing countries. Depression can develop when we are living in a stress environment. Unfortunately, a lot of people do not realise that they have depression. Today, I would like to share with you the symptoms of depression.

“The movie is really not nice.” “The food is tasteless”. “It is not interesting at all, I would rather stay at home.” If the statement is familiar to you, you could be attacked by depression. A depressed person mood is usually dejected, gloomy and joyless. They feel the world is boring and meaningless. The world is colourless and the only colour in their mind is black and white.

Some of the depressed patients complaint they have low self-esteem and deep feelings of inadequacy. They have low confident level on themselves and towards other people. Am I good enough? Other people don’t like me! I’m not being welcome. These statements are common statements appear in their mind due to their low confident level.

When you realise that you frequently worries and frets, you might be attacked by depression. I have a lady patient who can go back home to check if she has turned of the tap, switched off the electricity, locked the door, closed the window for several times before they went out from their house. At first, she thought she was being forgetful but in reality, this was the initial symptoms to develop depression. Hence, early detection could prevent formation of depression.

Some participating in yahoo answer session, I realised that a lot of people had symptoms of self-derogatory during depression. They felt relief after hurting themselves. They were not sure the reasons they were doing so. If this problem is not rectified immediately, depression is developed and this would lead to suicidal case. Self-derogatory is a serious symptom that needs immediate attention.

A depressed patient engages in critical and judgmental attitude towards both self and others. They are not satisfied with the people next to them. No matter what they did, how well they try, the depressed patient always feels they are not right. My mother was undergone depression after my dad past away. When we bought her new mattress, she kept complaining the previous was soft and the new mattress was too hard and she couldn’t sleep at night. We brought her out for lunch, no matter which restaurant we went she felt the food was not delicious. The judgemental attitude would not be realised by them but people next to them would suffer from this personality.

Some of the depressed patient would be highly pessimistic and complaintive. During working with the depressed patients, I found that their world is full of sadness. They felt that the world was hopeless. They always labelled themselves with “bad luck”, “no hope” and other pessimistic words. Some of the aggressive patient would start to complaint. One of my friends received a letter from the patients with the statement, “You consultancy is not professional enough”. In fact, the patient did not even know the term professionalism in medical practices!

Experiences a great deal of guilt and regret is the last general symptoms of depression. Most of the suicidal cases are generally related to this feeling. These patients feel that nothing much they can do and the suicidal would be their last choice. When this idea becomes a core believe, they tend to suicide. When we realise this element appears among our friends, we have to remind them it is a symptom of depression.

As a psychotherapist, long term goals are set to brighten downcast mode, improve self-esteem and feeling of self-worth, decrease ruminative worry, enhance optimism, reduce feelings of guilt and remorse, reduce griping and complaining, facilitate positive interpersonal relationships and finally expand active problem solving, thereby decrease passive resignation.

In the next article, I would share with you on the therapeutic interventions on dealing with depression patients.

Answer 8

how did anxiety start for you....b/c i'm going through the same thing..plz tell me in a message