Anxiety.... and girlfriend?

Question

Hi,

I had a panic attack about my girlfriend nearly two weeks ago... questioning my feelings for her... i feel good about me and her now... as I've overcome some stages of my anxiety... But when I'm with her... I feel happy with her and in love with her. When Im not with her I start thinking too much and I create more anxiety. I know you will say talk to her.. she knows all about this... The first panic attack I had was in her car, and now when ever we drive in it, it reminds me of what happened. At the time of my panic I was going through the stress of looking for a job... and i think this anxiety / what if thoughts are just lingering. The problem I have is when im not with my girlfriend I start to think to much about us, and seem to find it hard to find my happy place unless im with her... Im not just looking for love from anyone... is specifically her that i feel happy with... and I know i love her...

any help?

thanks

Answer 1

Well that is a big part of anxiety, when your having an anxiety attack, there is a "happy place" that you go to to relieve your anxiety. I have some advice...

-Understand how and why the panic attack occurs.

-Understand that we create the anxiety, the panic.

-Understand that YOU are your "safe-person" & your "safe-place"

I found this advice especially helpful to me...

First- ACCEPT - Recognize that you are feeling anxious. Accept your body feelings as a symptom of your anxiety and a sign that something is bothering you.

Second - PERMISSION - give yourself permission to feel anxious about whatever it is that is bothering you. "Of course I feel anxious because ... and its okay to have anxiety. I know what this is and why I feel this way."

Third - BREATHE. First, inhale through your nose for two seconds and exhale through your mouth for four seconds.

I hope I could help, this stuff really helps me when I'm feeling anxious about something... think about this quote "I am the lock, and I am the key."

Answer 2

Anxiety is the most horrible thing ever. It is really dangerous as well because it affects  your whole body. For example, heart rate, you feel like you are dying etc...

I really suggest you to find help (psychologist or someone who knows about this) because it sounds like you have a problem and if you don't learn how to control that feeling, it will ruin your life.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

I think I know what you are thinking when you two arent next to eachother. If you have doubts. You may want to talk to her about them. But be very careful how you bring it up. You dont want to offend her. Maybe ask her to marry you??

Answer 4

awe you really love her! u need to be with her i c and i may seem rude or w-e but i think she may b the 1 4 u:)

Answer 5

When your not with your girlfriend, you should try finding time to do something you really like. Like a sport of something. to take your mind off things. Hang out with your friends or something. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I've never had a panic attack, so I don't know how it feels, but my advice would be to keep your thoughts off of your girlfriend by hanging out with your buddies and spending time with them. Do fun things and plan activities, like playing video games or more adventurous stuff. It'll be hard, because I know how it feels to be away from your significant other for some time, but it'll get easier. Just keep your mind occupied with other things, and then really enjoy the time you do spend with your girlfriend.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

PLAN PLAN PLAN.

Plan your life. And start working on it. Don't give up if you slip a few times. And ask your gf to support you.

Oh last thing, make the plan together.