Anxiety in a two year old child?

Question

my two year old has had a rash for almost 7 weeks and she used to have really a bad temper but since the rash it has been terrible i mean even worse than before and now the doctor has her on hydroxizine 5mg every 6 hours. she was hospitalized in june for a nail in her foot and she has been through a lot toe strangulation at a month and a half old, eye infections, the nail, hospitalized for three days and now the rash for almost 7 weeks!!

it's NOT her just being two so please don't put that her being good is a two year old temper tantrum! i love my daughter but i need help trying to find out what is going on with her so please dont judge me or her on this

disipline isn't working it takes giving her extra time to calm down and spanking doesn't help it makes it worse and timeout only help for a second she isn't always out of control it's just from time to time.

i would really appreciate any advise there is OCD in her background but she doesn't have any signs or symptoms of that

thanks in advance

Answer 1

kids reflect their environment. if all is happy and healthy, the child will be happy and healthy.

always look into the cause of any misbehavior. it has everything to do with how the child is treated or mistreated.

also remember that children imitate us. so if someone close to her has a bad temper, she's going to learn to behave that way. or it could be that someone mistreated her that you don't know about.

just keep in mind that it's not her fault and that she has no control over her environment. give her as many big hugs as you can. make yourself available to her and remember that she needs you.

Answer 2

I'd say she just isn't respective of authority. My sister daughter is the same way. All she does is ground her for a little. About 1-2 hours in bed with no toys being monitored ever 20 minutes or so did the trick for my nice. You could try that.

Answer 3

  Wow, I would be upset too!!! She's young and can't really explain her pain and frustration so it may be up to you to just follow her doctors orders for treatment and show her extra loving attention and care, put up with her temper (for now) at least until she's feeling better with all these health issues. It's not her fault plus she two, after she gets better then you can start the time outs and all that, read to her, hug her (if can) talk softly, ignore her upsets and pay closer attention to her when she is calm, but I don't thing any kind of time out or spanking or yelling is going to help anything and don't worry what others think they don't know the whole story, be more concerned with you and your daughters relationship. You may have a little more trouble getting her to settle down once she is better. Then you can be consistent , and use time outs, hold back things she wants until her behavior is better. as for now just lots of love.

Answer 4

Get the rash treated by a doctor as it might be causing her a lot of pain.

If time out is not working, then lengthen the times that she stays away from the family.  Try a reward system where she can earn points towards a treat.  Socialisation might be a good idea especially if you two are always alone together, it also gives you time to listen to what other mothers are saying about their children.  Teach her how to care for something other than herself, start with a little doll then maybe a soft toy or a pet if she can handle being around a pet.