Any 1 else ready 2 give up?

Question

hi ladies,having a really bad day already....im stuck at work in a job i hate btw .................

i did the wrong thing in convincing myself every little detail was  a 'sign' and 'this is defo my month'.

well i got up 9.15am (its 10.11 now) and when i wiped there was a very light, pale pinkish stuff (sory tmi) cramps r killing me, and not only was i due tommorrow now its gone and i dont even know if that was my AF starting.

how do i tell my partner?????

iv had enough now i think, this will be month 9 and still nothing. i think i may just go out and get completely drunk, sell my house live off the council, quit work, get smacked up 2 my ****..........works for all those types dont it? pushing their prams with a can of super....

sorry its just everyone on here was supportive during 2ww i just wondered if any1 else feels like i do.

baby dust 2 all i really wish u all the best.

Answer 1

Are you saying that you thought you were pregnant and your not ?

Because you time will come, its something everyone goes through. Just keep trying. Its a natural process, and can only occur naturally. If it takes year, its still a natural process, even though i doubt it will take that long

Answer 2

You are still young with plenty of time. I'm 37 and in the same boat except without the time. Goodluck xx

Answer 3

I am on cycle 8 and yes I am in the same boat. I feel like giving up but i just tell myself that the time was just not right for us and one day it will happen. Hang in there and lots of baby dust to you.

Answer 4

Oh lola, I feel exactly the same. I have been trying for 10 months. I went to the doc and told him I had been trying 12 months (I pay NI so why shouldn't I). He reffered me and I am going on the 3/9. I, like you, also hate my job which makes it SO much worse doesn't it?  I pray you're having implantation spotting....e-hugs and baby dust to us both x*x

Answer 5

dont give up, your time will come

Answer 6

I completely understand how you are feeling!! I have been ttc for 8 months now and it seems a never ending battle that I'm not winning.

People say don't try and it will come naturally but i cant not try, its some thing i really want and always convince myself i could possibly be pregnant and then my period comes and I'm devastated.

Having to tell my partner is horrible but sometimes i feel he doesn't really understand the awfull feeling i have to wipe and realise that again we have not succeeded.

My sister has also just had a baby and everyone is now saying to me how natural i am and when am i going to have one, this just hurts even more and i feel like screaming at them.

I agree also it is hard to keep trying until 12 months before going to the doctors.

I hope it happens for you soon Good luck

Answer 7

Same boat but don't give up I haven't I realy understand how you feel. When my sister told me she was pregnant I actualy cried, I was happy for her but dissapointed since she wasn't even trying. I've been tcc for 2 years but still nothing. I have an appointment with a fertility doctor on te 8th I just hope he can find a solution for me and my husband. I have used clomide but never worked for me.

Answer 8

hey honey,,,every month! ive been trying for #3 (1st with my partner) for11 months now.  have i told you my story?when i was with my ex husband i was ttc for 3 and a half years, had a go at ivf and got pregnant with my 1st. when my son was 11 weeks old i found i was pregnant with my 2nd! it just happened!  

        i hope that my story shows you it can happen ! the docs had told me that it would be highly unlikely i would ever conceive naturally, my ex had very deformed sperm as his body was attacking them.

   good luck and baby dust to us all!!!!!

Answer 9

i have been trying to conceive for about a year now i am 34 and my partner 35. I feel like time is not on my side.  I have just started using ovulation sticks and i am due to ovulate any time now yet a LH surge has not been detected yet.

I really feel for you but you must not give up, everyone tells me to stop trying so hard and let it happen without thinking about it. Its so hard i feel like i live my life by 2 weeks always waiting.

Me and my partner are going to the doctors for advise and test maybe you should do the same.

Good luck and remember your not on your own.  Baby dust for you.x

Answer 10

Hey Lola,

Well for a start if you have been blessed with a child this month you are doing yourself and your child no good by getting worked up and stressed!!!

Second of all, I felt i should comment on this as i have been where you are now... I was TTC for 5 years after 2 years and a whole loada tests I was diagnosed with PCOS which ment i wasn't ovulating, unfortunately for me I wasn't ovulating at all not occasionally like most suffers. Every month i would chart my temps, look for CM (which I never found helpful), do ovulation tests, then just like you go through the agonising 2ww, sometimes i would start testing 4 days after I thought i might have ovulated... never got any positive ovulation tests mind you... and i would convince myself that every slight symptom ment i was pregnant, ooo my b***s are sore, iv got a headache, anything and everything basically... then when AF came it was like id been hit with a train, id cry for about 3 days, any pregnant women i seen i would feel resentful, scruffy young girls dragging kids about would get me going and i would just think why why why, all i have to give to a child and girls like this shell them like peas!!!

Finally I was prescribed Clomid after my partner was tested, dispite them saying he had "so-so" sperm i concieved the first month! I was so exited you wouldn't believe it was finally happening, i told everyone... 2 weeks later i started to bleed, ended up in hospital for a week and my HCG plummeted and i lost the baby.... The loss was immense due to everything i have been through but a few normal periods later I was back on the clomid, 2nd time i had taken it i ovulated but didn't concieve. Then 3rd month lucky I concieved, first few weeks i would check for blood constantly I drove myself mad with it!! Im now out of the danger zone and am15 weeks preg, i know I have a long way to go but I can feel it wriggling sometimes and although it is a strange sensation... Its a lovely feeling....

I just wanted to give you my story to perk you up and make you see that miracles do happen, and sooner or later you will get your little miracle!!!!

Good luck xxxxx

Answer 11

don't give up! your time will come. i've been trying for 19 months now, and just been diagnosed with PCOS. i know it will happen one day for me though. i'm 2 days late and scared to do a test! good luck to you, and loads of baby dust xx

Answer 12

basically just stop tryin!!! just have unprotecteive s*x when you do it but dont  try to have a baby the you may get one.

you may not no but you may be stressing yourself out to much 2 concieve. you should just go along with the flow and see what happens.

if not see your gp he/she can give you better advice than anyone else can on here.

Answer 13

I feel for you. I also have been ttc for over a year and nothing. Each month I convince myself that every little twinge of pain is a symptom but AF always shows. Its very hard to get excited anymore. I would suggest seeing your doctor if you haven't already and make sure everything is working well. Maybe your Doctor will be able to give you some good tips. I just went to my Doctor yesterday and got some encouragment and tips. I am healthy and got some good advice. The one thing I am trying now is PreSeed so hopefully that will help the little sperm make the trip.  I encourage you to keep trying. Try to find a hobby or something that will help get your mind some where else other wise you will drive yourself crazy. I also understand your frustration on how all these other people who are in no position to be having kids are "accidently getting pregnant." It's not fair in anyway. Well good luck to you and I hope it happens soon for you.

Answer 14

I hear ya. This is month 7 for me and I really was sooooo excited for this month. Now I got AF.

Answer 15

Arre you have hopes, nobody has given certificate that Its not possible for u.

Its just takin lil time, Dont be dishearted.

I know many ladies where Drs hv said cleary that they cannot conceive, but they have given birth to many kids....yesss...its true...

so stop worryin...n think positive:)