Any Advice On Ways to Spice Up Relationship???? ?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years... and we really love each other, but things have been a little dull lately. I'm not talking about physically/sexually... physically we are both still very attracted to each other... but we feel like maybe we've gotten too comfortable.

He told me the other day that he loves me and wants to be with me and no one else....but he's not happy... he feels like things have gotten too routine and he's bored, at first I was upset and defensive, b/c I personally have been pretty happy but then I realized he's right... maybe we have gotten into a dull "old married couple routine." He used to go away to school and it was sooo exciting seeing him on weekends...so I was thinking maybe taking some space or not seeing eachother so much would work...so that when I see him I'll be even more excited...but i'd rather not do that..i'd miss him too much (or maybe that would be the point..)

...but before you say that we need to break up....neither of us want to go our separate ways, we don't want to date anyone else (I asked him...and he said absolutely not and he wants to find a way to make this relationship work, so I told him I'd brainstorm ways to spice things up...which is why i'm asking for advice...)

Basically I guess we feel like we are kinda stuck in a long inbetween stage in our relationship (It's NOT new and exciting...but we're also NOT ready to take it to the next level & get married)... Any ideas or suggestions on how to spice things up and get the love stronger and excitement back??

Answer 1

I want you to know I read your question and will answer you after I give it some thought so no worries ~  

Answer 2

maybe yall do need sometime off or away from each otha bcuz it will make you miss him so much and somtimes thats wat you need so yu feel all ready to see him and try something new every other day

Answer 3

well that is good that he has told u, that is a strong relationship there no need to break up, well try new things,then go from there. take some time like prev response go away somewhere new, try new things leave him lil notes naughyt and nice ones, maybe have a weekend away from eachother do things with ur friends and that will make use miss eachother aswell and look forward to seeing eachother, umm oragnise a night that u take him out or u make him dinner but even like leave him a message asking him for dinner like its sorta like a first date, oraganise something different, buy some nice new lingerie.  

Answer 4

try to go out with him more or consider traveling with him to some exotic and/or romantic destination to spend time on him alone