Any Empty Nesters out there?

Question

Only child has moved out 3 months ago and its sooooooooooo sad....

Answer 1

My daughter is only 10 but I fear the day she moves out.  It keeps me up at night worrying about it.  I know this sounds crazy but I just can't stand the thought of her out there alone and something happening.  And what if she moves to far away for me to be there and help her if needed?  There are somedays I just can't stop obsessing about it.  I picture myself roaming around her rooms!  I know I sound terribly weak, it was just the two of us for the first 9 years and the thought of her leaving really upsets me, so I know what you are going thruogh and mine hasn.t even left yet!

Answer 2

We used to be, then our chick came back for a year or two.  Now he's back on his own and, you're right, the place is empty without him around.

Answer 3

"NO."  But I can imagine how you must be feeling.... Three months have passed.  "With all the respect in the world for you, get out and start thinking about you now..."  "They will be back soon enough, and they will want to see a mommy that has herself together even when they have been away..."  You will survive it and really it is your time now, so learn to enjoy it...

Answer 4

Now is the time for you to move on with "Your" life and do some things you never had time for while raising your child.  Don't be sad that he/she's gone, be happy that he/she's being given the chance to finish the job of maturing.

Answer 5

I'll move in with you..........

Answer 6

I'm an empty nester, and I know exactly how you feel.  My two children are grown and have been out of the house now for a couple of years.  At first I felt as you do, sooooooo sad.  I had to take action.  I don't know what your situation is, but I got myself a part time job which was the best thing I ever did.  It got me out of the house where I tended to mope, and I made some new friends.  Just recently, our company downsized, and I lost my job, so I've been home now for a couple of months, but looking for another part time position.  I panicked at first at the thought of being home alone by myself again, but you know what?  I'm enjoying it, and it even surprises me.  I like being in touch with my kids, but I also like my house being totally organized and neat as a pin.  I've taken up a couple new hobbies, done some projects, and have cleaned out and thrown away all the clutter.  My husband and I have nice relaxed meals together and our relationship has even improved since it's just the two of us again.  Believe me, you'll be fine.  Don't push it.  Be sad for a while, but you'll soon find yourself thinking of things to do.  And life will feel right again.