Any advice? What should I do?

Question

Okay so I was raised in California and I am currently living in New York where my husband was born and raised.

I'm unhappy because my family is in California and I HATE snow and he will be unhappy because his family is in New York...

He was offered a better paying job out in California and so was I and I am having a hard time getting a job here but he is having a problem with the idea of moving.

We have two kids and I compared schools and the area I want to live in schools are a MILLION times better than the schools here.

Plus believe it or not the cost of living in California is a little cheaper than it is here. (New York taxes are crazy!)

And when you are thinking "New York" no it's not NYC it's western Ny as in Buffalo bleh...

Does anyone have any advice? I know this is a tough situation.... What should I do?

I know I am being selfish wanting to up and move and go where I want to go but at the same time I think he is being selfish with the fact that he wants to continue living here as we suffer with bills and I feel that it would be better for out children out there than here....

Answer 1

have u sat down with him and had this conversation. I dont mean telling him that u want to move because u want to but telling him the facts and letting him know about the whole bill problems and the money problems that ure having now. sit down with him and TALK dont argue about it and dont make it a huge me me me deal.  

Answer 2

i think you should just move. Thinking about the kids they could get a better education there and your life would be easier since youd have better jobs! =]

and he could always visit his fam.  

Answer 3

Why dont the both of you sit down and think about moving somewhere in the middle? That way you would be equal lengths from your parents.