Any advice on how to be more social in school?

Question

i go to a private school,i am going to into the 8th grade and this is my last year at that school and i want to make the best of it...but in my class...somehow i can't stand the people in my class....i mean there are people that i consider my friends...but i have been a loner ever since i got there..i am very very very shy and i am not really social

because i am always afraid of what other people think of me...i am always alone doing projects and it's always like everyone doesn't want to be with me even though i think they may be intimidated by me for some reason...i don't have problems being social outside of school..it's just inside of school that terrifies me...because i want to go to a public school because i think i would actually belong there instead of a private school...but my parents won't let me because i had ADHD back in elementary school (when i wen to a public school back then) so i had to take pills...and now i don't remember anything of my public school days because it's all a big blur. and i used to cry on the bus when i was picked up from school...i don't really remember that...

but my family says i did and i think the reason why they won't let me go to a public school is because of what happened in my childhood when i did go to a public school. so please help

i want to be more social in school please help

Answer 1

Okay, I kinda know how you feel because I used to be really shy too. You have to talk to people in order for them to know you. Your problem probably isn't that the kids at school don't want to be around you. Your problem is probably that they just don't know enough about you. Trust me, you have to be brave and start being open and friendly to more people. Just be yourself and I'm sure people will want to hang out with you. Try sitting with somebody new at lunch and have a casual conversation with them. That is how I met my best friend. Just be brave, take chances, and step outside of you comfort zone. Also, you could try to sit down with your parents and explain to them exactly how you feel about going to a public school. If you are open with them they might reconsider. I hope I helped.

Answer 2

Are there any activities in your school? Can you join any extracurricular activities? Try it, this will help you become more sociable.

Answer 3

What i reccommend is get a drastic haircut or something. Get a new wardrobe. Something along these lines will boost your confidence. look fierce your first day. Smile to people in the hall way, raise your hand in class. my first day of high school i was so scared. But just really smiling in the hallway boosts your confidence. People arn't not going to smile back. If they dont' , its them, not you. just have fun. its your real last year as a "child" your going into you "teens" have fun.  

Answer 4

Honey...i understand you COMPLETELY! And here's what you need to do. You have to put yourself out there by getting into some of the things that your "friends" are into. Ask them about themselves...learn about them, and they will learn about you. Also be friendly, laugh, tell jokes, and most of all have a positive attitude, i promise that people will like you , and you will start to see that you will like these people too.

Answer 5

Ask for help from some friends. Pick some that are more social or extroverted than you, but try to avoid the ones who like to steal the spotlight. It will be harder for you to break out and leave an impression on people if your friend takes all the attention. These friends may be other introverts who want to be more social as well; you can support each other to help achieve your goal. Determine in which type of social activities you'd prefer to engage. A group or club, a team or other type of physical activity are among your options. It all depends on your particular interests.

I understand your fear of others not accepting you. Actually, my parents were divorced when I was seven and I took depression medication because I was ALWAYS upset. Honestly, if you stop worrying about what others think, then you'll be much happier.

On the other hand, if you really want to try a new school, then sit down with your parents and explain to them that although you don't seem as upset as you did when you were younger, you are. Tell them what you just told us.

I'm a social butterfly outside of school. But inside school, I'm really reserved and quiet. Seriously. =)

This will be MY senior year, last year in my school, also, and I kinda feel your pain.I'm a little nervous about it being my last year, and not really having friends at school (my best friend and my boyfriend both graduated). But, I'm joining more groups and throwing parties! Again, maybe you aren't comfortable with the party idea, but what if you were to invite some distant friends somewhere? You could get closer. You never know, they may feel the same way you do. Also, if you think you would fit in best in football, or soccer, or volunteer club, or chess club, then go for it! It's your last year. You're there for yourself, not others.

Others may scoff and laugh at you sometimes. I don't know if you're picked on or if you just feel the pang of being a loner like me. But I swear to you, a small step out is all you need. Do anything you think will improve your confidence! Like the other answer said, get a new haircut! Buy new clothes...or get something to personify your uniform. Don't worry about others tastes; this is a problem I had. When you are thinking about a new haircut or new jewelry, then do not let others cross your mind. Even once. Only think of what you like, and what will make you feel better. Also, openly love your interests. Personality attracts others of like personalities. If you like 80s rock, or hello kitty, for example, then decorate your locker. decorate your folders or backpack. others who like hello kitty will most likely take notice. =)

Again, do what you love! NEVER look upset in the halls. That really is intimidating. I used to look upset and my friends told me this. Head high, say hi to friends as you walk down the hallway. own it! =D

i hope i helped, even if only a little. =)

Again, I know how it can be. I still know my senior year. It is hard to change. If you need to talk, message me. We can do this together!

Answer 6

Tell ur parents that u dont fit in at all. No one is really ur freind,and try to get them to let u. If not just be urself and maybe the people will accept u as u r,and let u in to there way of life.It'll all be cool if ur just urself

Answer 7

That's kinda how I felt when I was at a private school but I didn't really consider anyone my friend friend, I felt like a loner though, and I did manage to do projects with some poeple that I talked to so I wasn't alone. I did feel like I would fell more accepted at public school though. And at first I did, but I started seeing people's true colors towards the end of the year and I'm still tryna observe them.

Anyways maybe you should try and come out of your shell more and more as the months go by but not all at once or everything won't go as you wish it to be. Try and get involved in more sports if they have alot and just try and make more conversation with people if you can. Hopefully you'll grow socially as the year passes by so you can enjoy it and stay positive too because that really helps.

I know this isn't a good answer and sorry about that, but Good luck !

Answer 8

i understand. maybe you could...idk... join more clubs in school- so people will see you're open and not a loner.

if that doesn't work just wait until high school- there are lots of people there that are like you.  

Answer 9

That was my problem too. And now I'm the most popular in my clique of friends!

I was tooooo shy. Never talked. Was kind of a nerd. Didn't like to interact much with other people. I always felt like I didn't fit in.

But you have to make friends with the new kids, or just try to talk a lot more, and once you get talking and doing nice things for people, they start liking you immediately. and that leads to friendship. Just try it. Talk to people.