Any advice what to do in this situation?

Question

I've been married for 2 years and everything was going well for the both of us. I lost my job of 4 years 2 months ago and been trying to find employment but nothing is coming to me.We've been arguing about everything. The sad part we don't have enough money to buy groceries or to pay all of our bills. I've filed for unemployment and had a appeal hearing yesterday but I don't know if I will receive it.

What I am cringing is my mother and sister in law lives 2 streets from us. They don't know I am working and these are the type of people who will jump over my husband why I don't have a job and will have a discussion about leaving me as they will perceive that I don't want to work.This happen before we got married and he sided with them,left me and came right back to me as he knew I was trying and I was willing to work.

The sad part is,I've been putting applications and resumes in,Been calling employers I keep hearing from them"If I am interested,I'll call you". I can not travel out of town to seek employment elsewhere as we only have 1 vehicle and my husband is working 2 jobs. I don't know a lot of people where I live and I feel like I am failing myself and getting depressed as I don't have nothing to go to. We can not afford to go to counseling as we don't have the money to seek professional help. I thought a person my age(29) would have something stable in life but I never thought I would end up this way.

Going to a vocational school or college is out as I don't have money to attend.

Answer 1

Babysit.  If you are a kind person and like kids then this would be wonderful way to bring in extra money and not have to have an extra vehicle.  Do not do this just to make money.  That would not be fair to someones child(ren).  If, and only if you do like kids and are responsible then you can earn about 125 a week for one child.  Good luck.

Oh, your husband does not sound too understanding and he should never pick anyone over his wife.  The economy is tough right now and with you only having one car than you are limited to the employment you can obtain.  He should know this.  I admire that he is working two jobs but maybe he should continue searching for one really good job.  Maybe he is embarrassed that he cannot support his family himself and he is taking it out on you.  I know this is terribly wrong but could be what is happening.  Same with his family.  They too may be upset that he is not capable of supporting himself and his wife so the easiest target is you.  Try not to let it get to you.  If it continues maybe you need to consider re examining your life and moving in with a family member and working part time and going to school.  If you don't have any money (or very little) you will qualify for grants that you do not have to pay back.

Answer 2

that must be such a hard situation. hang in there you WILL find a job. everyone can it just takes time. maybe while he is at work and your home clean the house and make a nice dinner and show him that you ARE looking for work and even found the time to do some extra things around the house!

Answer 3

A husband should be there for his wife always, especially during hard times like these. And you should not have to be worried that he is going to leave you on top of everything else, his love and support should never be questioned. If this is how he reacts during toght times then this would be a real indication of his future actions when life gets tough, and a real eye opener for him. If you are trying as hard as you say you are then something will come up soon, even if it's not your dream job take what you can for now, fast food, retail etc. to at least help with the bills, and you can still continue to look for a better job. Are there not buses where you live? Financial support for adult students etc.? If you look into these options a bit more I believe you will find there is some help available.

Answer 4

What kinds of jobs are you applying for?  You may not be qualified for them.  I would start looking for state/county jobs as the pay is fair and the benefits are good.  It may take a while to get a job with your state or county, so in the meantime, clean houses or go to Starbucks, McDonald's, Burger King, local grocery store, mall, wherever and put in an application.  There is nothing wrong with working there and you can bring in some extra money.  The college kids who were working at these places for the summer are going back to school, so the openings are all over the place.

You will have to either take public transportation to your job, walk, or schedule your self around your husband's ability to drop you off and pick you up.  

You will also need to cut out some of the expenses you are encountering.  Get a cheaper cell phone plan if you can't get rid of it.  Are you paying for high speed internet when you can get on the same internet with dial up?  Do you have an expensive cable television plan you can either get rid of or switch to basic?  Sit down with your husband and your bills and see where you can make cuts and changes.

I know it is hard...we are going through really tight times right now and I haven't had a pay check all summer.  We have made it through the summer on peanut butter and jelly, hot dogs, mac and cheese.... whatever was cheap and on sale at the grocery store.  

It is all how you look at it.  We were stressed and arguing,  but my husband wanted to make a go at starting his own buisness.  This is what we had to do to make it work.  Yes, it totally sucked, and I never want to look at another PB&J as long as I live.  But, losing our house or having the power shut off wasn't an option.  Sometimes we all have to do things that we don't want to do while we are working on something better for the future.  

Can you sell your house and move to an area that is better for your income?   This could help with your ability to get to a job and get you away from your inlaws.

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