Any advise. I have a 12 month old boy and i am 5 wks preg.

Question

Any advise on what to expect. So far my boy is misbehaving and only wants to be with me. He wants to be carried all the time. Hes too young to understand that a new baby is coming. He wasnt always like this. Help.

Answer 1

His being clingy to you is actually mostly due to his age.  Kids at his age are exploring more as they become mobile and start walking, but they also get separation anxiety at the same time.  It is a stage that generally passes in a few month.

As for being pregnant, try to involve him in helping with baby things when he can (like let him help pick a color for the baby's room).  When the baby is born, continue to involve him - let him get the baby a toy or pick out an outfit, etc.  Also bring him a little gift from the baby when the baby comes home.  When the baby naps, take advantage of that time to give him some one on one time.  It will be hectic having 2 kids so close in age (my kids are 18 months apart), but you will get to see an awesome sibling bond developing at the same time  :)

Answer 2

I have two twenty months apart so I won't tell you its not hard.  But you just take it one day at a time, and all kids are different.

By at 5 weeks your son shouldn't have a clue what is going on and shouldn't act any different then usual?

Answer 3

Well if my best friend can handle 5 kids under 7, you can do 2 under 2. I wish she had an account, id have her message you. Maybe i can ask her and message you what she says.  

Answer 4

I doubt at 12 months that he understands what is going on. Clinginess may be just a normal behavior at this point; maybe it is a reaction to your preoccupation with the pregnancy.  Kids' behaviors do not remain static.

Answer 5

Well at 12mths children in general are going to be testing you constantly so that they will figure out your limits so that they will know theirs.

Don't back down on anything. If you want to carry him everywhere then you can but if you don't then just say something like "No you are a big boy You can do it." constantly encourgage him to walk on his own. Keep telling him that he is such a big boy and is doing great and that you are always going to be there.

It sounds to me like he is experienceing seperation anxiety. Afraid that you are going to leave him or something. I would just keep telling him that No mommy isn't going to leave him.. Keep reassuring him. Also correct his bad behavior don't give an inch when it comes to this because if you do then it's just going to keep getting worse.

As to the new baby coming. Even though he might not understand what is going on I would keep telling him. Also include him with all the things that have to do with the new baby. I take my son with us to the doctor's appointments so he can hear the baby's heart beat and he really loved seeing the baby on the ultra sound. Keeping him involved will make the transition better when the baby does come. Also keep telling him he is going to be a big brother. Also showing him pictures of babies might help as well.

Alot of the problem might be that he is sensing your stress, tension, or excitment and is trying to cope with it.. So Just give him lots of hugs and spend some quality time with him but not to much cause he might get to use to it and when the new baby comes all your time is going to with the new baby. He might end of getting jealous.

Just remember you are the mommy and things might seem hard at times and it feels like your going to scream..SO just go outside and scream! let it OUT! find someone that you can talk to with out being judged and let out all your stress.. Also it's not going to hurt your son to just sit in one spot and cry.. If you need to get away just put him up in a play pen or somewhere  where he can't get hurt and walk away.

I had to do that with my son at times because it just seemed like things where getting to much for me to handle. Also if you have someone that can watch your son for a little while go do something for you and just relax and be happy.

Right now I am due any day and I have a 4 yr old son. I won't lie and say things have been easy but like I said you are the Mommy and you can do it!! Just keep faith in yourself.. Heck your son is a yr old and look at him.. You must be doing something right lol!

Keep on keepin on, Best of luck

:D

Answer 6

i hear ya i am 2 months pregnant and have a 7 moth old who wants all my attention all the time!!  

i am nervous to say the least...right there with you.