Any aspects of your personality that you have "put away" since becoming a mom or dad.....?

Question

have you "put away" any aspects of your personality since becoming a mom or dad? If so, why?

I have so many facets of personality in me, I try to give each one a little light here and there and not bury them outright just because I have become a mom. Some of mine......

b***h

w***e

hippie

anarchist

blubbering over sentimental girly

radical feminist

animal lover

scaredy cat

raving lunatic

just a few, most I let out to see the daylight every once in awhile, some, such as w***e come out with the hubby in whatever way we deem fun. Animal lover is there all the time.

What about you?

Answer 1

I haven't put away anything. I'm still the same as I was prior to having kids, still have the same views. I just feel stronger about them now.  A lot of people think I'm a bi*ch, but I'm really not. I expect decency, and don't like people that can't be decent and responsible. The only time I'm intolerant, or come on strong is with these types of people:

I don't like Ignorance.People that whine about bills. People that whine about their choices in life, People that talk c**p about young moms, People that are irresponsible parents, liars, cheaters, whores, racist, druggies, drunks, obesity, materialism, perverted men, low lifes, people that beat their kids!

Other than that I'm pretty easy going. Nothing has changed with me. I'm just more willing to call it as I see it, now that I have had time to know what things are/aren't the way people make them seem.

Answer 2

I put away the "nice" person. I find now I have less energy to even attempt to be PC. I no longer sugar coat my words. And i stand up for myself a LOT more than I used to. Im not really a ***** Im just no longer willing to cave on my own integrity and follow the pack.

I put away the scared, paranoid child and Im not looking back for that one. I have enough confdence now to know who I am and Im happier than I have ever been.

I put away the over emotional, clingy woman. I know longer need or even want to be number 1. I just want to be part of my family and love them. I used to be the person who would cry over everything and need constant reassurance that I was correct in everything I did.

I am trying to put away the obsessive me. As many know I struggle with Anorexia. Im hoping to this part of me away and never let it back out.

I have found the facets of me that i put away werent parts of me I liked. I wont be allowing them out anymore.

Oh yes and btw I also kept the inner w***e. Thats something my husband would never forgive me for losing.

Answer 3

Put away the smoker.  Just doesn't feel right to smoke anymore even when I'm not around Bradley.  I felt dirty so I quit completely.  Can't say I feel any better physically (I was down to less than 5 cigs a day anyway) but at least the guilt is gone and I feel better around Bradley.

Put away the psycho hot head redhead--although Bradley's father may not altogether agree.

Put away the young woman willing to be someones doormat.

Put away the scared and scarred step child.

Put away the traveler--for now.

Answer 4

My baby's due September 2nd, but I hope to "put away"...

Being impatient/short-tempered

Cursing like a sailor (no, I'm not really that bad!)

Sweating small, unimportant things

I'm working on these changes during my pregnancy.

Answer 5

i have completely changed. from 100% wild cherry to 100% virgin mary.

hahah really very true.

Answer 6

I put away the 'drunk' personality.

Yeah, every weekend wasn't complete for me unless I had at least one night of partying at a club drinking and smoking and dancing until 4 am.

I went out this past Saturday night to celebrate my little cousin's 21st birthday (I feel old now, by the way)....

I had two drinks, felt tipsy and was ready to go to bed by midnight.  And all the smoke in the place gave me a headache.  I had rode up there with a friend of mine who wasn't ready to leave until 2... So I didn't get home until 2:30........

Needless to say I felt like c**p yesterday.  

Blah.  :)

Answer 7

*lol* this is a cute question!  yeah I put away the b***h as well along with the impatient and selfish...

Answer 8

There are several ones for me; here are the ones that I've noticed the biggest difference though:

I put away the spontaneous and wild side of me.  

I used to do anything at the spur of the moment, now I plan everything in detail.

I went cliff diving at the lake a couple of weeks ago w/ my brother.  I got up to the top of the cliff and thought, "what the h**l am I doing?".  Same thing w/ roller coasters, I was always the first on the biggest, scariest rides.  Now, I still do some things but not nearly as much as I used to.  I think, "who would take care of my babies like I do if something DID happen?".  I guess I was living for Nina before... but not anymore.

Answer 9

Well, I know I'll be putting A LOT of my personality away when the baby is here in November. The b**** will definitely have to go. Also, I have to remember that while there is freedom of speech (I write, so I'm ALL about saying whatever is on my mind), there is some speech/ topics simply inappropriate for children. I'll have to store away the scaredy cat that doesn't want to kill a roach or spider, too.

There's a few I'll have to pick up, too. For example, I'll have to learn that eating out everyday is no longer an option (sure wouldn't want to pass that on to Junior). That means I'll have to actually learn how to cook - especially if I don't want another incident like last night where I thought I'd try my hand at making chimichangas and nearly lost on eye when I splashed hot oil everywhere!

My mother (former bakery owner turned kitchen manager), thought I was the most inept of all her children as she explained to me that you wear long sleeves, some sort of glasses, use a splash guard to cover the pan and tongs to turn things over - not a spatula.

I reminded her I WRITE - never said anything about cooking.

That was HER job.

Answer 10

lol** Right!! What husband ever wants his wife to put away the w***e! Mine is still alive and well but she does not come out as frequently as she used to. lol

I really have to work to hide my fear and worry. I know it is not healthy for my children or myself but I worry sooooo much about them all, particularly my girls. I know there are far more good people than there are bad but..............

Answer 11

Excellent question!

There are certain things that I have "cleaned up" about my personality. For example, I still drink but don't get drunk anymore, I don't go to parties, my language is significantly less vulgar, and of course I am significantly less spontaneous and more responsible. I am not selfish anymore, my first priority is always my family... This is probably not a completely good thing, since it is important to be selfish from time to time... But that's incredibly difficult with a husband who drives an hour each way to work and works 13 hours, 5 days a week, a 5 and a half month old daughter who hates sleeping, a part-time job and online classes! Someday, I will be a real person again. Until then, I exist strictly as Mom.

Oh yeah, and I am a lot more judgemental of "bad" parents... Being a parent is rough, but not as difficult as a lot of people make it seem. Being careless hurts more than just yourself... Children don't choose who their parents are, but parents choose to have children.

Answer 12

Haha, besides having no more fun for myself (kids = no more going out ever, havn't been out for 3 years),

I am actually more of a b***h, crabier, somtimes I probably seem like a raving lunatic.  

I've put away the animal lover side of me, but I think that's just been part of me myself growing up - I've learned that animals die quickly, so I don't get attached and then when something does happen to them, I'm kinda just indifferent to it.

I've stopped the blubbering over the sentimental stuff because that's not part of my life because my husband doesn't have an ounce of romanticism in him, so I figure why long over it only to be disappointed by the lack of it.

Yeah, I've totally changed since I became a mom.  My outlook on life is a lot duller.  lol.  AAAAAhhhhh.... I need like a  vacation!  lol!  But that won't happen for at least another  18 years!  lol.

Upon thinking this over for awhile, I've also had to put away the scaredy cat afraid of my own shadow thing.  My husband is in the Navy, and he's up for sea rotation again next spring, and I've had to really work on not thinking that there's soemthing lurking around the corner or something coming to "get" me...lol.  It's been really hard, because I have a BIIIIIIIIIG imagination that likes to run away with me sometimes.  But I've learned that I have to do that, and it hasn't been easy, especially since during the past 5 years, I've been used to my husband being with me every day and I havn't had anything to be afraid of, but like the saying goes... "Here comes the rain".  :)