Any body been made fun of 4 being adopted?

Question

Sometimes people knowing that I was adopted gets really hard. I get made fun of becasue of it. Any advice on how 2 handle it?

Answer 1

personally, i feel sympathy for people that have been adopted. Then i realize that their no different :).  Those people who make fun of you should go to h**l.  You had nothing to do with the situation of being adopted.  Obviously, your young, because i don't think older kids would make fun of someone that was adopted....i don't even see what they could make fun of? that you have a better life because you were adopteD?  Just ignore them. Jerks.

Answer 2

This is a tough one. They are afraid of you (or anyone adopted) because you are different in a way they do not understand. You need to find a phrase that empowers you but shuts them down but is not mean spirited. Perhaps something like "You don't have to be afraid of what you don't understand. My family is just like any other family."

If that doesn't work try telling them "I refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person." and walk away. If they are dumb enough to make fun of you for something you did not do or had no control over, it will take them a couple of minutes to figure out you just insulted them. Seriously though, hang in there. It will get better.

You don't say how old you are or where you are being made fun of (home school, etc) but I would also suggest you discuss it with your parents so they could maybe have a private conversation with whoever can help you get this resolved. If I ever heard anyone was teasing my child because she is adopted, I would have a serious conversation with the teacher or with the child's parents.

Kids say stupid things. It's part of the definition of being a kid.

They have limited understanding and cannot comprehend that you birth family made a HUGE sacrifice for you. They wanted more for you than they could offer when you were born. Your adoptive family wanted you so much they adopted you making you a full fledge family member with all of the rights and entitlements of a biological member. That is awesome. They would probably be jealous they weren't adopted.  

Also you don't say how the kids doing the teasing know you are adopted. Is it an interracial adoption? Are these family members?

Good luck. It will get better in a few years.

Answer 3

I've never been made fun of...but I am adopted. You should look at it the way I do and ignore them. I feel that I am even more special because my mom picked me...I wasn't just an oops. I feel so special to know that out of all the kids my parents could've picked, they picked me!!!!

Answer 4

I think it is so sad that people would make fun of you! Just think that your special because someone loved you so much that they wanted you to be their child. Consider yourself blessed to have parents and that your not in a foster home right now!Your  adoptive parents probably chose you as their own daughter. Doesn't that show how much they love and care about you? If you dwell on these things, and forget about the other peoples harsh comments, you'll feel a lot better! A lot of times people don't understand adoption and that might be the reason to the teasing. It really isn't that big of a deal. You have parents that love and care about you and thats what really matters. The teasing may be hard to take, but don't let it get to you. Think about what the girl above me said. Her mom picked her out of all the other kids! Doesn't that make you feel special?

Answer 5

I feel awful about that; i put my baby up for adoption this year ; it was the hardest thing ive ever done in my life im "15" and ill never think about doing it again but you kno wwhta you need to stay strong and forget about those people who make fun of you they are just jealous of you because now you have a better life and who knows what they live like; they are no better than you we are all human no matter what nothing wmakes us different besides our atitudes; but dont let them put you down ignore it and just think about how much better your life is. be proud of yourself and what your parents gave you the chance to live a better life with an adoptive couple! :-) think positive

Answer 6

My children always tell the person that they were very glad that their parents chose them over all the other kids they could have chosen. We always say that we hand-picked our special children.

Answer 7

Wow, you poor thing.  l feel really bad for you hun, but speaking as a foster parent/soon to be adoptive parent, let me tell you that no matter what anyone else says to belittle you or make fun of you, you are one of the most wanted, loved and wished for children in the world!  Most parents love their children unconditionally, including adoptive parents, but sometimes those who adopt children just go that extra mile because they wanted you in their life so much.  l know how hard we've been fighting to adopt our foster son, and it's all going to be worth it once we can tell him "you are our son forever".  Next time anyone says anything to you, just hold your head up high, and either ignore their ignorant comments or just tell them that you know how special you are.  Then feel a little sorry for them because they might not have been told the same thing!  Good luck to you and your life's journey.

Answer 8

Dear friend, I am adopted also.  This is not an easy question.  I suggest that you 1.  Don't let people know they are bothering you, then they'll quit or 2.  Don't hang around people who make fun of you.  They are basically idiots, but kids will be idiots sometimes.   Also, please talk to your parents and/or a couselor about how you feel.  Ask them if this is bullying.  If it is, they have a duty to intervene and have a talk with these kids who are bothering you.  Hope this helps.  You are great!  Sincerely, Runner

Answer 9

It's all a matter of perspective. There were a couple of times when people made comments about my adoption, saying that my 'real' parents didn't want me and all the rest which I am sure you have heard.

I realized after a while that my adoptive parents were my real parents, they raised me, sheltered me and loved me. And no matter what anyone else said they must have wanted me very badly to have gone through all the trials and tribulations of the adoption process in order to call me their son.

In fact they must have wanted me a whole lot more than most other parents wanted their children.

Your adoption is part of who you are, but it does not define you. Just ignore the morons, and they will soon move on to other targets when they realize this doesnt affect you