Any hints on how to win an argument?

Question

It seems like when Im in a heated debate I can never get my point across, My mind goes blank and I feel all in turmoil After Ive cooled off I can think of the point I was trying to make. Any ideas

Answer 1

To take the heat out of the debate, you need to feel less attached to winning and more attached to providing information in a logical, calm way that will help you get your point across. Good arguments are all about persuasion, and if your presentation or someone else's elevates the debate to a heqated argument, so one is going to hear anything except, "I'm right! NO, I"M RIGHT!"

To argue effectively, never forget that you have to listen carefully to the other side's argument so you will know what you need to counter. If you can really hear the opposition and find a win/win strategy, you will have identified a reasonable compromise that will partly satisfy you both. Then you need to present that in such a way that it seems to really benefit the opposition. Be prepared to explain precisely how it will be of benefit.  

Answer 2

knowyour oppents weakness' and strengths

Answer 3

1. Calmly state the facts 2. State your point of view. 3. Then shut up and wait for a response. 4. If the other party becomes abusive simply say I will discuss this later and move on to another subject.  

Answer 4

Stay calm and don't raise your voice or insult the person you are arguing with, the person who does that always appears as the loser. State facts and evidence if you have them. A person who is good at debates or arguing can always twist what the other person says so that their point actually backs up your side of the argument rather than theirs, or has information to disregard their point.

Answer 5

When your in an argument, don't get all worked up, but relax and remain calm.  If your in a heated debate, your mind is focusing on going against your opponent, instead of trying to get your point across.  So next time, take a deep breath, and focus on the topic you are arguing and try not to get all worked up.

Answer 6

SHOUT AS LOUD AS POSSIBLE REALLY AGGRESSIVELY SO NOONE ELSE CAN GET A WORD IN...everybody will dislike you and be scared but it won't matter because you will have had the last word even if you were completely wrong,,,,this is what always happens. someone always does this...so i don't know why everybody is going on about 'staying calm'...sorry it doesn't work. you are just going to get victimised by the other person because people are idiots ..so laugh in their face if they try an arguement

Answer 7

just stop arguing and watch the other person yell then calmly say ok are we done fighting now?

Answer 8

There's actually a great book about it, it's called:

     "How to Argue & Win Every Time: At Home, At Work, In Court, Everywhere, Everyday" by Gerry Spence

This will make you view arguing under a new light.

To sum it up:

- Recognize the NEED to argue (you need to express yourself, let your truth be TOLD).

- BE the bigger person (Listen to the other side of the story without leaning psychologically on your opponent. Be the more mature one of you two.)

- Think WIN/WIN (As an adult person, you'll want both: your truth to be told and people to win something in the matter also. People don"t have to lose for you to win: this makes for a truer, bigger, win actually.)

So, basically, a mix of self-expression, wisdom and a desire for the better things to win are the recipe for winning an argument.

Fabien

From France,

Self-Help books addict!

Answer 9

always bebate with effeective manner and never heated up because it burns ur mind means ideas of ur mind  

Answer 10

End all your sentencs with "you're so stupid".